I'm about to accept it as fact: I'm not losing my v-card anytime soon

[ElStud]

I've started to accept this as a fact. I can talk to girls and hell, if a girl had sex with me I'd probably dominate her ass in bed. But unfortunately, I've come to accept that I'm just not losing my v-card anytime soon. Doesn't mean I'm a bad person, doesn't mean I'm afraid to talk to girls, but it's just a fact.

I'm 19 and a virgin and I can just probably accurately predict, that I'm not getting any lay soon. Now my friends drive me around, which is pretty much the only way I can go to any places where girls hang out. Problem is, while it's cool hanging with them, we never go to where the girls are. That's how it is with one friend atleast.

Other friend just has these black girls who aren't good looking at all and act ghetto(Dude admits he's only in it for the booty). In the end, I don't even want to lose my v-card to that. Sorry if I'm not desperate, but I want to lose my v-card to a chick who's actually decent to look at. That ghetto sh*t is his thing, not mine. I'm from the burbs and therefore want girls who act like they're from the burbs too.

In the end, I'm saying if I was going to lose it, I would want to lose from a girl in suburbs. Most likely, I'd want to lose it to white chick from the suburbs or a black chick from the suburbs, who doesn't act like a hood rat(Which is hard to find). But yeah, my friends dropped me off after we hung out and sitting at my computer now, I can accurately predict that, I'm not getting laid anytime soon.

Hell, even if there WERE girls like that, I have this mindset of "Where is it going to lead?". I have that mindset because I don't want to waste time with a chick. I don't want to talk to her and then have it end at "Well it was nice talking to you" hell no. I want to talk to her and KNOW IT'S GONNA LEAD TO THE BED. This is why if I don't think ****'s gonna go down, I just plain don't waste my time talking to a chick.

So now, where's the night probably leading for me? Me beating my meat to some good porn, then playing video games.

But yeah, just had to get my thoughts off my chest.

 

[Kal0051]

Hell, even if there WERE girls like that, I have this mindset of "Where is it going to lead?". I have that mindset because I don't want to waste time with a chick. I don't want to talk to her and then have it end at "Well it was nice talking to you" hell no. I want to talk to her and KNOW IT'S GONNA LEAD TO THE BED. This is why if I don't think ****'s gonna go down, I just plain don't waste my time talking to a chick.

this mindset is your problem, just talk to girls you like, if it doesn't lead to bed then whatever. You never "know" she's gonna sleep with you before you've even talked to her, so take a chance and roll the dice.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Basically sounds like you are trying "not" to get laid...

What's ironic is that he actually has a higher chance of getting laid now than ever before. Assuming her puts away the porn and video games and does something useful.

 

[Mr_rogers]

I think you should stop relying on your friends to go to parties and stuff. You should see if there are any clubs or whatever that you can join to meet people on your own. Get a job, join a gym, whatever. But stop feeling sorry for yourself, which was pretty much what your entire post was, especially those last couple sentences.

 

[eaglez1177]

I've started to accept this as a fact. I can talk to girls and hell, if a girl had sex with me I'd probably dominate her ass in bed. But unfortunately, I've come to accept that I'm just not losing my v-card anytime soon. Doesn't mean I'm a bad person, doesn't mean I'm afraid to talk to girls, but it's just a fact.

I'm 19 and a virgin and I can just probably accurately predict, that I'm not getting any lay soon. Now my friends drive me around, which is pretty much the only way I can go to any places where girls hang out. Problem is, while it's cool hanging with them, we never go to where the girls are. That's how it is with one friend atleast.

Other friend just has these black girls who aren't good looking at all and act ghetto(Dude admits he's only in it for the booty). In the end, I don't even want to lose my v-card to that. Sorry if I'm not desperate, but I want to lose my v-card to a chick who's actually decent to look at. That ghetto sh*t is his thing, not mine. I'm from the burbs and therefore want girls who act like they're from the burbs too.

In the end, I'm saying if I was going to lose it, I would want to lose from a girl in suburbs. Most likely, I'd want to lose it to white chick from the suburbs or a black chick from the suburbs, who doesn't act like a hood rat(Which is hard to find). But yeah, my friends dropped me off after we hung out and sitting at my computer now, I can accurately predict that, I'm not getting laid anytime soon.

Hell, even if there WERE girls like that, I have this mindset of "Where is it going to lead?". I have that mindset because I don't want to waste time with a chick. I don't want to talk to her and then have it end at "Well it was nice talking to you" hell no. I want to talk to her and KNOW IT'S GONNA LEAD TO THE BED. This is why if I don't think ****'s gonna go down, I just plain don't waste my time talking to a chick.

So now, where's the night probably leading for me? Me beating my meat to some good porn, then playing video games.

But yeah, just had to get my thoughts off my chest.

Dude its the fvcking summer man get off your ass, use this fvcking website to change yourself, and fvck some pvssy. Oh, and your 19 YEARS OLD, enjoy your youth while you can, cuz the last thing you want is to be another one of those lazy old losers who wishes he couldve LIVED his life.

 

[nismo-4]

Looks like I have to dig here.

I've started to accept this as a fact. I can talk to girls and hell, if a girl had sex with me I'd probably dominate her ass in bed.

But you never did and with this attitude, never will get that chance.

But unfortunately, I've come to accept that I'm just not losing my v-card anytime soon. Doesn't mean I'm a bad person, doesn't mean I'm afraid to talk to girls, but it's just a fact.

Admitting your faults is half the battle. Doing something about it is what you need to do. Crying just won't cut it.

I'm 19 and a virgin and I can just probably accurately predict, that I'm not getting any lay soon. Now my friends drive me around, which is pretty much the only way I can go to any places where girls hang out. Problem is, while it's cool hanging with them, we never go to where the girls are. That's how it is with one friend atleast.

Go by your damn self! You're 19 and have 1800+ posts?! Dammit, going out for a walk could help you meet a chick. Break the ice.

Other friend just has these black girls who aren't good looking at all and act ghetto(Dude admits he's only in it for the booty). In the end, I don't even want to lose my v-card to that.

These days, you can use them for practice and at least you'll be losing your v-card. Some would say it's better than nothing.

Sorry if I'm not desperate, but I want to lose my v-card to a chick who's actually decent to look at. That ghetto sh*t is his thing, not mine. I'm from the burbs and therefore want girls who act like they're from the burbs too.

So go find them. It's just like Pokemon. If you want Electric types, go to a power plant. If you want Water types, go to the ocean. If you want Bug or Grass types, go to the forest. The point is, if you want chicks from the burbs, go to local coffee shops and parks. If you look like you have a life and have your balls at the ready, you can catch them.

In the end, I'm saying if I was going to lose it, I would want to lose from a girl in suburbs.

Why specifically?

Most likely, I'd want to lose it to white chick from the suburbs or a black chick from the suburbs, who doesn't act like a hood rat(Which is hard to find).

Damn right! Or maybe they act like that way to you?

But yeah, my friends dropped me off after we hung out and sitting at my computer now, I can accurately predict that, I'm not getting laid anytime soon.

Sitting at your computer and getting real p*ssy don't even belong in the same sentence. That prediction will come true without the use of a crystal ball or a meteorologist. Now get the f**k out the house and take action bro.

Hell, even if there WERE girls like that, I have this mindset of "Where is it going to lead?". I have that mindset because I don't want to waste time with a chick.

Nope. You have no confidence nor any direction nor any leadership skills in a relationship. You act out of fear.

I don't want to talk to her and then have it end at "Well it was nice talking to you" hell no. I want to talk to her and KNOW IT'S GONNA LEAD TO THE BED.

You either gotta be rich, famous, a male model, a sexy R&B singer (not a Maxwell knock-off), or extremely trendy. You aren't any of these things? Then show that you're a MAN!!! Take charge! You'll have to try harder than one who has those qualities stated earlier, but you can still win provided you don't go into an AFC mindset. Not always, but you can.

This is why if I don't think ****'s gonna go down, I just plain don't waste my time talking to a chick.

You are not a psychic. Remember the cliche' that you never know unless you try? Apply.

So now, where's the night probably leading for me? Me beating my meat to some good porn, then playing video games.

Sad.

But yeah, just had to get my thoughts off my chest.

Read between the lines!

 

[Chrom3y]

I haven't gotten any poon since i broke up with my gf back in june. But I KNOW I''ll get some eventually as long as I make some kind of attempt. Like that quote goes "You miss 100% of the shots you dont take". The way I see it is that you're a virgin and you can't really be picky. If you want pvssy from a hot chick then go get one, Im not saying Im good with women but Im learning. And yea I dont do ghetto chicks either lol.

 

[theunflushables]

But we do have to give the man credit that he isnt just going to go out and fvck some hood rat to lose his virginity.

Man, you got a month until school starts again. Go back with guns blazing and take your great approach skills and push it to the next level.

I'm going back to school after 5 years and that is exactly what I plan to do.

You want to put a friendly wager on this Mike? See if you can lose your virginity before I sleep with a girl from college. I'll even give you the whole month of August as a headstart.

 

[Kal0051]

How does that work?

You never hear a sports psychologist tell his athletes to chant "we are not going to score, the field won't let us win"...

Sry, but chipping away are your own self-esteem is never the answer. :nono:

I'm not sure if this comment was directed towards me but all I meant by my post is that you'll never get some magical sign that says "instant lay here" and that seems to be what the OP is waiting for. He won't even talk to a girl unless it's 100% it's going to end up in bed.

So to the OP, start talking to girls, escalate, and if nothing happens then oh well. Just find another girl to talk to, escalate, then find another, etc, etc. Eventually you'll get laid, and I can guarantee it will take less time than you waiting around.

 

[Ruster21]

ElStud: YES!!!! You'll be a virgin to the rest of your life.... Whether you have 1,821 posts or 10,000 posts.... Don't worry... You're a majority.... About 99 % of people of this site are virgins.. Including moderators & admins... So you're perfectly normal ... So.... Put your glasses on... And go play solitaire.

 

[Commandante]

Elstud:

You started 283 threads in the past 2 years. You already got a lot of advices. Are you doing anything in order to change your life or are you just coming back again and again crying like a b!tch? If a MAN tells a problem to his buddies he does it because he wants to find a solution. Somebody who tells a problem to get compassion from others is acting like a WOMAN.

You should start a last thread and fill it with things you have already done to improve yourself. And get a fvck out of here until this thread is empty!

 

[Ease]

have you ever been in a relationship?

Being picky about girls is basically being insecure and nervous and afraid of them. You need to get out of your comfort zone! Obviously its not easy.

Your first time isnt going to be great or something special, so dont be a girl about it. Of course it would be nice to buck a supermodel, or the love of your life, but either way its gona be a bit awkward and new, and you might be so drunk you dont even remember. So basically just go do it since you clearly have made a big deal of it in your head.

Get into a relationship if you arent in one, and you'll lose the virginity in the process. Its a bit odd expecting to lose your virginity randomly on the spot after meeting a new girl.

 

[scrouds]

Go ask maxwell if you can tag his sloppy seconds when he gets an escort. Problem solved!

 

[Furyguy]

It takes a lot of time to learn a new skill. I'd say if you're been reading and truly applying this site's advice for greater than 2 years, you might be **** out of luck. Otherwise, keep at it. It's trial and error, it's a LOT of information to learn and apply, and it takes a long time to completely reorganize your mind from the ****ed-up state it was in before you discovered this place. Be patient.

Hell, even if there WERE girls like that, I have this mindset of "Where is it going to lead?". I have that mindset because I don't want to waste time with a chick. I don't want to talk to her and then have it end at "Well it was nice talking to you" hell no. I want to talk to her and KNOW IT'S GONNA LEAD TO THE BED. This is why if I don't think ****'s gonna go down, I just plain don't waste my time talking to a chick.

Maybe if what you're doing isn't working you should scrap that idea and try something new, eh?

No, I'm not talking about going gay. Just lighten up and stop coming across as such a prick. The message you're sending is "I'm not interested in you, just your p*ssy." Chicks don't like that.

Also, some serious weight lifting can never hurt.

 

[Smack]

"Whether you think you can or you can't, you're probably right."

 

[ElStud]

Well I've read the advice and stuff and I'll see what I can do. But really, I think I'm just going to forget about losing my virginity. Clearly, it isn't going to happen anytime soon, so I'll just not worry about it until an oppurtunity comes up.

 

[ElStud]

Well I've read the advice and stuff and I'll see what I can do. But really, I think I'm just going to forget about losing my virginity for now. Clearly, it isn't going to happen anytime soon, so I'll just not worry about it until an oppurtunity comes up.

 

[Da Realist]

Well I've read the advice and stuff and I'll see what I can do. But really, I think I'm just going to forget about losing my virginity. Clearly, it isn't going to happen anytime soon, so I'll just not worry about it until an oppurtunity comes up.

Wow, you sound like the opposite of me at 19. I was a virgin, lived at home for the summer, didn't have a car, didn't even have a job, but I made i up in my mind I would get some. And I did! I read this site through and through, put what I learned into action, somehow got the money to get a motel room, and did it. I didn't even join the forum until sometime after I lost my virginity. Forget about being desperate because I was too at that time. I just got up the balls, made a plan, and carried it out. You may have to be a little sneaky since you're at home, but if its something you want to do, don't signal defeat.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Well I've read the advice and stuff and I'll see what I can do. But really, I think I'm just going to forget about losing my virginity for now. Clearly, it isn't going to happen anytime soon, so I'll just not worry about it until an oppurtunity comes up.

Close but not quite. Don't even worry abut that. Just focus on having a good time with a girl, whether that's sex or just hanging out. If you have experience or not, it doesn't matter. What matters is how you spend time together and what you do.

 

[Kevin Feng]

Couple things, first off, you will need a car and your own place in order to make the game work, generally speaking you can’t bring a girl back to your parents’ place, that’s just a huge DLV. So if you want to work on something definitely work on getting your own place and a ride.

Second, you can’t expect to talk to every girl and expect every girl to go to bed with you. I mean geez, every Mystery out of sets and doesn’t bed EVERY SINGLE chick.

It’s like expecting that every stock you invest in is going to pay back in huge dividends.

Pick up as with anything else worthwhile takes time to learn, mistakes are involved, and there are going to be plenty of rejections. So unless you are willing to make that sacrifice, nothing is going to happen.

-Kevin