Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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'I'm a virgin, you know'

nectarine

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OK. Does anyone have any idea what the bottom line is about those girls who tell you in the first 5 minutes that they are virgins? It happens now and then some cute girl - usually, very cute for some reason- will pop up and before youve even found out if she's local or not she'll drop that clanger. You don't know if it's true, you didn't bring sex up, just... bam.

Generally, it'll be a girl who you find it really hard to believe about, she'll be 18-23, HB8.5-9 and she will smack of naivety, which may or may not be a front. It's not a secret confided in you in a moment of trust, it'll just be volunteered with the slightest reasoning, breezily, like they might say they like curry.

What is their game?

Is it a lie/ploy, and if so, what's it meant to achieve with me or the next guy?

Is it true, and somehow you managed to elicit that particular information in record time, possibly because it's at the front of their minds suddenly?

Is it just evidence of damaged goods whether true or false, that they're determined to tell anyone? I go with this, currently.

What do I make of it?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by nectarine
OK. Does anyone have any idea what the bottom line is about those girls who tell you in the first 5 minutes that they are virgins? It happens now and then some cute girl - usually, very cute for some reason- will pop up and before youve even found out if she's local or not she'll drop that clanger. You don't know if it's true, you didn't bring sex up, just... bam.

Generally, it'll be a girl who you find it really hard to believe about, she'll be 18-23, HB8.5-9 and she will smack of naivety, which may or may not be a front. It's not a secret confided in you in a moment of trust, it'll just be volunteered with the slightest reasoning, breezily, like they might say they like curry.

What is their game?

Is it a lie/ploy, and if so, what's it meant to achieve with me or the next guy?

Is it true, and somehow you managed to elicit that particular information in record time, possibly because it's at the front of their minds suddenly?

Is it just evidence of damaged goods whether true or false, that they're determined to tell anyone? I go with this, currently.

What do I make of it?
Turn it back on her...
"That's a pretty good ploy you've got going. Does it always work?" ... get her to qualify.
 

Climax

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Just reply with something along the lines of "hmm.. oh well, i guess we cant have sex then... I dont want you getting to clingy;D" .. u say this in a joking manner obviously, and then see by her reaction if she is interested in you or not.


Laterz...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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spider_007

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She feels special when she saiz that. it's a way of getting attention (not necceserally from you)
 

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"oh...pft"

I actually use that as a resonse to 95% of womens' dumb comments...
 

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girls that say that out of now were are probably lying. they just want to grab more of your attention. hopefully no girls say that crap to me cause I wont believe it.:)
 

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Attention whoring, definitely. I still find it an odd thing to use though, true or not. Just makes me think... ice queen...
 
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