what do you do when a girl calls you a player simply because some other chick told her that about you? the girl that told a girl i was interested in is telling her i'm a player simply because i wasn't interested in her when she was interested in me. it's nothing more then that. now she has this girl who's a friend of hers thinking i'm a player which is a bunch of bs. do i take this as a compliment or how to i convince the girl i like that i'm not a player?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
i'm a player apparently
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
hell who knows. the girl i like isnt giving any details about why or anything. i mean if you're going to lable me as something dont you think youd at least tell me why?lol girls that listen to their friends are stupid.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
YesRobert28 said:
You don't. Your image as a player (whether its true or not) puts you in the category of "a challenge". You don't have to add to it, or take away from it. Just let the girls wonder.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
squirrels
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Laugh...then blow it off as if it's a joke and she's f-ing with you. 
Sir Psycho Sexy
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Most girls are turned on by the thought of being with a "player"
Some will use it as a good reason to disqualify you
Some will use it as a good reason to disqualify you
The Mad Ghost
Senior Don Juan
Whoever said that, was joking.
When I eventually get the "Are you a player?" or "You're a player, aren't you?" line, my standard reply is: "Sweetheart, hate the game. Not the player."
Based on their reaction to this I gauge whether they're insecure little girls who have a problem with me seeing other girls when we're not exclusive OR their IL is getting higher each time we go out and are considering asking me for exclusivity...
Just my $0.02...
Based on their reaction to this I gauge whether they're insecure little girls who have a problem with me seeing other girls when we're not exclusive OR their IL is getting higher each time we go out and are considering asking me for exclusivity...
Just my $0.02...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Donnie Darko
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Play on player! Play on!
she said i was a player because i tried to flirt with a friend of hers, but i didn't know the girl was a friend of hers. she won't tell me who, so it could be any number of girls as i am a pretty outgoing guy wherever i go.