what do you do when a girl calls you a player simply because some other chick told her that about you? the girl that told a girl i was interested in is telling her i'm a player simply because i wasn't interested in her when she was interested in me. it's nothing more then that. now she has this girl who's a friend of hers thinking i'm a player which is a bunch of bs. do i take this as a compliment or how to i convince the girl i like that i'm not a player?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
i'm a player apparently
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
hell who knows. the girl i like isnt giving any details about why or anything. i mean if you're going to lable me as something dont you think youd at least tell me why?lol girls that listen to their friends are stupid.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
YesRobert28 said:
You don't. Your image as a player (whether its true or not) puts you in the category of "a challenge". You don't have to add to it, or take away from it. Just let the girls wonder.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
squirrels
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Laugh...then blow it off as if it's a joke and she's f-ing with you. 
Sir Psycho Sexy
Senior Don Juan
Most girls are turned on by the thought of being with a "player"
Some will use it as a good reason to disqualify you
Some will use it as a good reason to disqualify you
The Mad Ghost
Senior Don Juan
Whoever said that, was joking.
When I eventually get the "Are you a player?" or "You're a player, aren't you?" line, my standard reply is: "Sweetheart, hate the game. Not the player."
Based on their reaction to this I gauge whether they're insecure little girls who have a problem with me seeing other girls when we're not exclusive OR their IL is getting higher each time we go out and are considering asking me for exclusivity...
Just my $0.02...
Based on their reaction to this I gauge whether they're insecure little girls who have a problem with me seeing other girls when we're not exclusive OR their IL is getting higher each time we go out and are considering asking me for exclusivity...
Just my $0.02...
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
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Play on player! Play on!
she said i was a player because i tried to flirt with a friend of hers, but i didn't know the girl was a friend of hers. she won't tell me who, so it could be any number of girls as i am a pretty outgoing guy wherever i go.