"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i'm a player apparently

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what do you do when a girl calls you a player simply because some other chick told her that about you? the girl that told a girl i was interested in is telling her i'm a player simply because i wasn't interested in her when she was interested in me. it's nothing more then that. now she has this girl who's a friend of hers thinking i'm a player which is a bunch of bs. do i take this as a compliment or how to i convince the girl i like that i'm not a player?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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hell who knows. the girl i like isnt giving any details about why or anything. i mean if you're going to lable me as something dont you think youd at least tell me why?lol girls that listen to their friends are stupid.
 

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Robert28 said:
do i take this as a compliment
Yes

or how to i convince the girl i like that i'm not a player?
You don't. Your image as a player (whether its true or not) puts you in the category of "a challenge". You don't have to add to it, or take away from it. Just let the girls wonder.
 

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Why does it matter?

She's just trying to get a reaction.. Don't give into her frame.

"Yup, I'm a player. You better be careful. Smile."
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Most girls are turned on by the thought of being with a "player"

Some will use it as a good reason to disqualify you
 

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When I eventually get the "Are you a player?" or "You're a player, aren't you?" line, my standard reply is: "Sweetheart, hate the game. Not the player."

Based on their reaction to this I gauge whether they're insecure little girls who have a problem with me seeing other girls when we're not exclusive OR their IL is getting higher each time we go out and are considering asking me for exclusivity...

Just my $0.02...
 

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just because a girl calls you a player doesn't mean she's disqualifying you. maybe it's turning her on and she likes that.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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she said i was a player because i tried to flirt with a friend of hers, but i didn't know the girl was a friend of hers. she won't tell me who, so it could be any number of girls as i am a pretty outgoing guy wherever i go.
 
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