"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm a huge failure

Alle_Gory

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Desert Fox said:
Yes I am being vague for a reason. Too much pride, even to this anonymous community. I also don't trust people I lack basic trust of people.
Thought so. I spotted it quick because I do the same thing. I don't reveal much, even my geographic location. :whistle:

It's a pride thing you've got to work on that. A little humility goes a long way. Read Wind Friends and Influence People by Carnegie. Humility at its best.

It's not necessarily a bad thing to be distrusting. Most people aren't out to harm you however. Its nice to let some people in.

Everytime I open up, or trust someone I am making myself vulnerable to attack, to pain, to somethnig I cannot control. Therefore, I have developd a huge over inflated ego and sense of pride as a destructive, but defensive mechanism. That much I do know about myself.
Yeah...

Best thing I have found is to embrace the pain. As long as it doesn't hurt you physically... who gives a damn? Emotional pain is all in your head, its just a thought and it cannot physically hurt you. Only you are making yourself feel bad.

Its funny watching some chicks try to insult you, and try to dig in. Once they see you don't respond it gets really good. :D

How can you hurt that which feels no pain?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Da Realist

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Fox, stop living in your head. Do something. I've got stuff to worry about too and I'm contiuously learning to just get up and live. Hard advice to follow, but it's the truth.
 

Nygard

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Fox, someday you will forget to think you're a failure and do something good, or stop caring about minor stuff.
That's pretty much what happened to me when i was younger, and at some points I was really hoping for the bullet train.
 

Gaucho

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lol, grow up kid.

Some people have serious illnesses to contend with, and your whinging about something trivial no doubt.
 

MetalFortress

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Colonel Sanders became a self-made millionaire for the first time while he was in his 70's. Just because you're not hitting it NOW, doesn't mean you won't. Put the work in now, and I guarantee, you'll likely do it well before the age Mr. Sanders was at.

(PS. Yes, he IS a real person, google it :p)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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