"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm a fun life of the party type of guy, where's my women?

usedtolurk

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I don't think I look bad at all, I think I'm probably a 6.5 or 7. I can see how I lose to guys who are more attractive to me.

I think my biggest asset is my personality. I have the ability to turn almost everything into a party. This really wins with the guys, in a platonic way. But somehow my personality turns off girls.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Don of Truth

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That sucks! Well, we can't all be winners and have a girl. Just chalk it up to fate and let go and accept it.
I did and I'm much happier now!
 

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honestly what ive noticed about parties is that most chicks arent after the dude grabbin all the attention doin backflips and making everyone laugh. Sure they love him for his entertainment value, but inbetween the clownish behavior they are peeping at the suave guy chillin on the sidelines socializing with whoever comes his way.
 

Jake-inator

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Okay here's your problem:

You're the clown that all the girls think is funny.
What you need to become is the guy who can socialize.


honestly what ive noticed about parties is that most chicks arent after the dude grabbin all the attention doin backflips and making everyone laugh. Sure they love him for his entertainment value, but inbetween the clownish behavior they are peeping at the suave guy chillin on the sidelines socializing with whoever comes his way.
Julian is right on.

I've tried both methods... and i've only had success with the suave approach.

You just look like a dumbass... When you're the suave guy you can actually point out those guys and laugh at them and the girl will agree with you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fatality

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Yeah there is always some guy at a party making people laugh by being the"life of the party." At the same time they are laughing at these guys because they are embarrassing themselves.
 

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Stop putting a lampshade over your head and making farting noises with your armpits. OK, I don't know what you're doing exactly, but you should approach a specific girl, introduce yourself and get a convo started. Start working the kino, instead of the comedy act. Offer a girl a massage and/or whisper in her ear at a party instead of pulling a rabbit out of your azz.

Keep working the kino and convo, keep escalating and get as far as you can get until you get a 'no', a lay, or a slap across the face. Read the Gunwitch Method. Good luck and stop acting like a dork at parties. Act like a DJ, bro.
 
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