"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I'm a Daddy (I think)!!!

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well.. that pretty much sums it up. I'm in Melborune right now (having the time of my freakin life BTW) with my GF, and she popped the news on me 2 days ago on her Bday. she told me it was the "best BDay present I could hvae given her"

She didn't want to tell me because she didn't know how i would react.. Honestly... I'm pumped!!!

however iwth that said.. the DJ part of me is making sure it's actually MINE.. but i'm not going to ruin a perfectly good vacation on that now.. i have ample time for that when I get back stateside.

I even think it was one of thoose things I was subconciously doing.. you know how you slowly wing yourself from using condoms with someone? Then you "leave it in" a time or two... i should have saw it comin a mile away. not that i don't want it... but sitll, shoulda saw it comin.

I'll keep you guys posted. Very interesting last month to say the least.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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congrats ...for ruining your life!

btw: How old are you BB?
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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congrats, glad you're happy
 

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thanks. I didn't even think I 'd be this happy. I mean i like kids and all.. but I mean.. I'm me. I can't wait to find out (well first.. verity it's mine)if it's a boy or a girl. will keep you guys posted
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Whoa dude....not to rain on the parade here, but how long have you been with this girl? Are you already that sure you want her to be the mother of your kids??? :eek:
 
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Congrats BB! Now be the best damn father you can be for your child!
 

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congratulations bro! good to se you being a real man and being happy starting a family and taking care of your kid...thats what its all about man..cant wait till i get there. im happy for you BB!!
 

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Massive congrats backy b.

Got any names in mind for the rascal?
 

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Shoot me a pm if you need any ideas on how to get rid of the broad, along with the little bundle of terror she carries in her belly.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Oh my, what will LMS think? :D

Anyhow, despite your age, it sounds like you can already afford this.

Have no doubt, the kids are a bottomless hole of cash, though most parents get by with less than you.
 

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Whoa dude....not to rain on the parade here, but how long have you been with this girl? Are you already that sure you want her to be the mother of your kids??? :eek:
yes. even if we aren't together in the future, she is someone I can deal with.
 

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Phyzzle said:
Oh my, what will LMS think? :D

Anyhow, despite your age, it sounds like you can already afford this.

Have no doubt, the kids are a bottomless hole of cash, though most parents get by with less than you.
i'm not concerned about the finances.. it's not a rpboelm.. however I've been puttting "baby money" back for 2 years now.. i knew the day was coming sooner or later, just a matter of time.

I'm interested to see what this little rascal is going to look like. Of course i'm black. She's English. I'm 5'9. She's 5'7. we are both in excellent shape...

I'm pretty confident it's going to be a boy.. there has not been a female born on my dad's side of the family in the last 100 years. if that's not a stat for you I don't know what is.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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