"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm a 'boy toy'?

I.A.F.Y.B.

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This might be a stupid question... But, I saw that my girlfriend left a comment on her friends myspace saying "the boy toy is good, I love him so much." So what is that suppose to mean? I'm someone that she controls and would do anything for her? what do you guys think that means.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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B4IFURU18?

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I'd be very very conscientious if I were in your boots....

Really though, she's just calling you that, just like I call my women "sex slaves", doesn't mean I actually view them as slaves, just a name...

Don't worry bro, you're fine.
 

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Thats is a compliment in a sense. It basically means she really likes the sex you are giving her. What you would rather her be saying however is "My man is amazing, I love him so much".

If you want to, you could bring it up and say.. "I noticed on your myspace it says "the boy toy is good". I know i'm not some friggin boy toy, I'm your man, so you must be referring to somebody else. Are you cheating?""

This will set her off her rocker on the defense and within 24 hours check that myspace again!
 

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I don't think that's a bad thing, it honestly just sounds like she was trying to be funny with her friends.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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lol read what pook says about boy toys's and this girl actually had the guts to say it to you, not good . You know when you say somethign sexual to a girl in a joking way but your serious thats probably what she was doing.
 

Play the Game

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Boy Toy implies that she's in control... she's like a puppet master amusing herself with her doll.
You're basically a piece of meat to her. How you interpret that into your reality is up to you, it can be good or bad.


boy toy -
A male used specifically by females for pleasure and fun when their husband or boy friend is not giving them enough attention or in case of break up or divorce.
 

B4IFURU18?

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LOL at you guys blowing this WAY out of proportion. I can't believe I'm posting twice in this thread, but the last two responses have compelled me to.

You're girlfriend probably doesn't actually think you're her boy toy. Perhaps she does. If you're a huge *****, let her control everything, and have no back bone, then I'm sure she thinks you're her boy toy.

If you're a man, have some control, and normal, she's joking...

For jtrain, and PTG, wtf are you guys thinking? Seriously.

She's JOKING!!!!!
 

The Juan and only

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oh for frick sake. She's joking. And that is OK.

No need to overanalyse like that. It won't lead to a healthy relationship I can assure you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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if your being yourself then w/e if you know you are not being yourself when your around her and trying to be somehtign that she finds attractive then you are her boy toy. But if you like being her boy toy then lol go ahead . Like what play the game said its up to you.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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From all the responses I believe she is just saying that jokingly. I feel I wear the pants in the relationship and I'm the dominant one. I have been being a little overly nice to her over the last week. But, nothing over the top.
 
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