SeymourCake
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I read all the DJ Bibles and I put them to use...Still no progress of getting laid. 
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Sir Psycho Sexy said:Do you ever have any dates?
Do you have any female friends?
Do you ever talk to women?
Let us know where exactly you are right now.
Infact I dont think your even asking anything? It looks like a statement.
Hakuna said:Hit on every girl you see for the rest of your life, get a good career, go the gym, dress well, and keep reading the bibles over and over again till you know them by heart. Just knowing all the principles won't help, you need to apply them. If all else fails, get a hooker. At least this way you'll have less performance anxiety.
3 comes after 2 bro. My bad, this really just adds insult to injury.SeymourCake said:1. Never
2. No...
2. Whenever I get the chance, yeah.
Alright, I'll work on that, but I'm never gonna have sex with a hooker. Sex shouldn't cost a thing.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
try and give some info on your interactions/attempts so we can deconstruct what you are doing wrong and rightSeymourCake said:I read all the DJ Bibles and I put them to use...Still no progress of getting laid.![]()
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
kingsam said:try and give some info on your interactions/attempts so we can deconstruct what you are doing wrong and right
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MAN listen to yourself! All your effort is going into walking, standing and looking! I tell you what, the position of your eye brows is NEVER something you should worry about! It screams of insecurity and you'll probably look like a goof.SeymourCake said:I walk around with my chest up, shoulders relax, eyes brows low, low eyes, with a smirk on my smile. I walk with style, but I don't over exaggerate it. (...)
Dude, are you thrusting your pelvis back and forth when you walk? Don't do it. That is just way too sexual. Just a smooth, cool, confident strut.SeymourCake said:I thought chest up, shoulders relaxed were a sign of a confident alpha male. A lot of the DJ Bibles are contradicting. Thanks for that link though. To sum it up, all I need is a life.
They are, but your priorities are wrong. Improving your looks is only a tiny part of the puzzle, and you're not doing any of the rest. You'll be stuck with one piece forever.SeymourCake said:I thought chest up, shoulders relaxed were a sign of a confident alpha male. A lot of the DJ Bibles are contradicting. Thanks for that link though. To sum it up, all I need is a life.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.