I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
1) TMI.Michele said:I wouldn't want to leave any marks. I always use water... but still.
Michele said:Commando? What about when you're wearing nice slacks or whatever. I know your crack is clean... but just in case. I wouldn't want to leave any marks. I always use water... but still.
I wear boxer briefs... underarmour ones.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1558861&postcount=10Just a Shot Away said:1) TMI.
2) Curiosity got the best of me. Where exactly do you get the water from when you use the restroom in public?
Michele said:Sometimes when there's no one standing waiting for a stall, I grab a lot of paper towels, soak them thoroughly, take a stall and lay them on top of the plastic TP dispenser. When I'm done, I'd grab some TP, get it wet from the paper towels by pushing them together. That's how I get a moist TP.
OMG I do the same thing!!Michele said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.