Im 29. what attracts women now?

[Thebestthereeveris]

I relied on my looks and my arrogant confidence to attract women when i was a teenager to early and mid twenties. It aint working right now. Some women still get turned on by it a lot but ive been noticing women running away or not liking that vibe. Even the younger girls. Is it cause they expet me to be more "mature' and level headed?

 

[CornbreadFed]

Just go to the gym

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Keep the confidence, get rid of the arrogance and a lot of those women running away will at least be curious

 

[characternote]

what age girls are you going for?
A lot of my friends who were banging hot 18 year olds when they were like 18-25 get rejected a hell of a lot nowadays when going for 18 year olds now they're older. You should still be fine if going for girls around your age.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Is it cause they expet me to be more "mature' and level headed?

It's prudent to cultivate those traits for yourself, first and foremost, hombre. Attracting first-rate women into your orbit is a byproduct of doing so

 

[The Duke]

Hmm...your approach isn't working you say? With your username, profile pic, and your own description I can't understand why! lol.

As you get older women look for more stability, resources, good career, emotional intelligence, communication skills, listening skills, and empathy from the men they date.

I've got a friend that used to get by on his looks. He had the girls, the car, the motorcycle, nice apartment, and partied a lot. He made good money in his 20's. In his 40's he is broke and has none of that stuff anymore and lives with roommates. He has nothing going for him. Nothing to offer women these days. He never grew out of his 20's.

The only girls he gets are train wrecks and they are far and few, and they aren't even very attractive. It's taken a hit on his confidence. Mainly because he never had true inner confidence to begin with. It was all smoke and mirrors. Eventually people see thru the facade.

 

[BaronOfHair]

He never grew out of his 20's

Such fellas are going to become are more common throughout The Post-Industrial World(Hell, in some nations, things have gone more awry than anything we have in The US or UK https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20200429-swedens-male-only-supper-clubsfor-feminists ), in the coming decades

Sadly, there's very little legal/policy reform can do here... These are matters of self--development and individual choice

 

[Solomon]

OP as you get older you have to work more on emotional intelligence as well as your inner game (metaphysical game as I call it) You got by on gimmicks, I was just like you, it worked great until 25/26 but eventually if you don't get to a higher level with your inner game or inner self you're going to keep hitting a plateau. Being a FBOY in your 20s who is good looking is cute (sarcasm), but by the time you're in your mid-30s, it's cringe and somewhat pathetic to quality women cultivate your inner self and look at the type of women you're attracting or want to attract.

Gain wisdom, be humble,

Peace

 

[SW15]

I relied on my looks and my arrogant confidence to attract women when i was a teenager to early and mid twenties. It aint working right now. Some women still get turned on by it a lot but ive been noticing women running away or not liking that vibe. Even the younger girls. Is it cause they expet me to be more "mature' and level headed?

"Money, muscles, game" -Rollo Tomassi

Based on your profile picture, your looks are on point. You have muscles, lower body fat, and defined abs. In another thread, you mentioned that your height is 5'10". That's an unremarkable height, but won't get you penalized with most women, except for the ones around 5'8"+.

Which venues are you using to seduce? With your physique and location (Las Vegas), I would recommend focusing on commercialized pool parties. Commercialized pool parties are pools with often with DJs connected to a business (bar/restaurant, hotel) with hundreds of semi-strangers attending. Las Vegas has many of these. Commercialized pool parties would give you an opportunity to show off your physique more.

Pool party season at the Las Vegas strip hotel can go into mid-October.

I started a thread on commercialized pool parties in the past because Dallas has a few these.

Getting Laid as a Result of Going to Pool Parties

After using the Search function here, I realize that there hasn't been a lot of discussion about getting laid as a result of going to pool parties. The lay doesn't have to happen on the same day as the pool party, but at some time after meeting a woman at a pool party. Let me be more specific...

www.sosuave.net

Since you have looks/muscles in a good spot, something on the money, status, and personality side isn't working for you. Rollo Tomassi would call this "money and game". It's the same thing.

As you get older women look for more stability, resources, good career, emotional intelligence, communication skills, listening skills, and empathy from the men they date.

The things you mention fall on the money, status, and personality side. These are good features for a man seeking an LTR in his 30s and beyond. It's difficult to pinpoint when they start to become more relevant, but I think it falls somewhere between 30-35.

@Thebestthereeveris is 29 right now. @BPH is 31. @BPH has been able to be a successful seducer without money/status, but looks & personality are his attributes.

Younger, broke dudes can get laid.

In 2011, Roosh wrote an article about being broke, unemployed, and living in his dad's basement at age 31 (nearly 32).

Getting Laid While Unemployed And Living In Your Dad’s Basement

It's much more difficult to pull off that style of initial seduction after one's early to mid 30s.

I think it is important for us to understand if @Thebestthereeveris is seeking longer or shorter term interactions. He might also be a Thrill of the Hunt guy too (see below). @nicksaiz65 has been more of a Thrill of the Hunt guy, as he's mentioned doing 30+ approach nights. I think we need more information about OP's game style.

Two Types of Men: Thrill of the Hunt or Pleasure of Sex – Updated for the 2020s - Alpha Male 2.0

Reading Time – 10 minutes This is an update to one of the most important techniques and concepts I’ve ever conveyed to my audience. Once you fully understand what I’m about to explain to you, your dating and relationship life with women will be much...

alphamale20.com

 

[Manure Spherian]

I relied on my looks and my arrogant confidence to attract women when i was a teenager to early and mid twenties. It aint working right now. Some women still get turned on by it a lot but ive been noticing women running away or not liking that vibe. Even the younger girls. Is it cause they expet me to be more "mature' and level headed?

Iorder of who women are sexually attracted to, I consider three categories:
1. Criminal, deviant, and anti-social men.
2. Status (can be money), social adroitness, popularity, propinquity.
3. Looks (at the bottom of the pile).

How old are you?

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

what age girls are you going for?
A lot of my friends who were banging hot 18 year olds when they were like 18-25 get rejected a hell of a lot nowadays when going for 18 year olds now they're older. You should still be fine if going for girls around your age.

I just banged a 20 year old and have a 19 year old who has the hots for me

 

[characternote]

I just banged a 20 year old and have a 19 year old who has the hots for me

that's good then.
What's the problem again? lol

 

[BaronOfHair]

You got by on gimmicks, I was just like you, it worked great until 25/26 but eventually if you don't get to a higher level with your inner game or inner self you're going to keep hitting a plateau

This is perhaps the most sharp distinction between what draws women to men vs men to women... Alluring as youth, innocence, and even some level of immaturity(I.E. Girlishness)are on a woman, the inverse IS NOT especially true

Even in these Woke times we inhabit most heterosexual gals start craving men, rather than fratboys, by time age 25 rolls around... Instinctively, they can sense:

"The peak of whatever physical desirability I possess will soon end, and my fertility will begin falling off a f-c-ing cliff, never to return. If I'm to lock down someone who can provide me with motherhood and a swanky home in the suburbs, I have to do so NOW, if not last week"

 

[Clockwerk50]

that's good then.
What's the problem again? lol

Maybe he is hooking up with water buffalos. Lol

 

[Divorced w 3]

Health and a personality

 

[Manure Spherian]

I just banged a 20 year old and have a 19 year old who has the hots for me

It aint working right now.

Huh?

 

[SW15]

I just banged a 20 year old

Was this 20 year old at least average tier in looks?

Having sex with a 20 year old at age 29 is a solid accomplishment if her looks are decent.

 

[characternote]

don't go to kansas
http://instagr.am/p/DM0tRjyyLWb/

 

[characternote]

Having sex with a 20 year old at age 29 is a solid accomplishment if her looks are decent.

I got a 17 year old at 36 lol. I can send you her pic in our recent DM if you want haha. Quite nice

 

[BPH]

@Thebestthereeveris is 29 right now. @BPH is 31. @BPH has been able to be a successful seducer without money/status, but looks & personality are his attributes.

Appreciate the shoutout.

Here's what I'll say, and why I think I've had the success I've had despite my financial shortcomings, and living situation...

I have confidence, but not arrogance. I am very well aware of the fact that I'm not an attractive prospect on paper:

• 31 years old
• Lives with parents
• Makes less than $50k/year
• Drives a Prius

This affords me a certain level of humility that most people (and women) don't expect from a guy who looks the way I do. I approach most situations with an open mindset and willingness to learn, rather than believing I already know everything. I am friendly to people who have nothing to offer me, purely because I appreciate their company. I am forthcoming and honest in my dealings with women, and don't fall into a stereotypical label as a f***boy, despite not seeking long-term relationships.

To answer OP, simply be a well-rounded, decent human being.

Being attractive and being confident are great traits to have, but you shouldn't feel like you're better than anybody else because of those things. Tempering that behavior will come across in your interactions with others, and people will appreciate you for being grounded and genuine, rather than thinking you fit snugly into their preconceived notions of how they'd expect you to be.