"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm 25, so is it ok to date 19 year old girl?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Maxtro
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Dude as long as she's 18 and you don't look like you don't belong with her then your fine. I plan to be dating the 18-22 year old girls for a long time. Or until I'm out of college.
BTW I look like I'm 23 or something so I blend in easily with the younger crowd.
There's some people that probably have a problem with it (the 18 and 19 year olds you steal her from), but I say f*ck 'em. Nothin' like having a young mind you can mold how you see fit
Maxtro
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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i'm almost 32... i go for anything from 18 to 50 (if they're still hot)... doesn't matter dude... go for it
thatguyjamalx
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If theirs grass on the court, play ball...
Lord Shinra
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Dont see a problem, nor would I care if anyone else had one.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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jesusrules
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And rightly so. At your age you should be fvckin girls up to around 40, if they're still hot. Your gonna learn alot of stuff you can use on 18 year olds once your 30.jesusrules said:
Fuglydude
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If the maturity level between you guys is relatively similar, you're both happy and you like the potential that you guys have then what's stopping you?
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If not, flip 'er over and play in the mud. :crackup:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
SynTheUnscathed
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Canadien said:
Why in the world are you asking people on a message board whether you should date someone you have interest in...? No my man. Do you want her? Is she good enough for you? That should answer your question.
Although, after having gone through that mess, I know I won't personally date a girl that young again most likely. Even the ones who seem well adjusted or mature for their age are too much hassle for my taste. There's a lot that girls learn between 20 and 25 that I want a girl to have dealt with before I get to them. But if it floats your goat, give it a shot.
If its grass on the in-field play ball...
comic_relief
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my girlfriend's best female friend is 21 and she is dating a 33 year old man.
comic_relief
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.