"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm 25 shes nineteen starting college and lives at home....
- Thread starter KenJones
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
mcqueen207
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You are only young once! :woo:
espically when she turns 21, it's a whole new world of guys giving them attention when girls are leagally able to enter clubs
In Australia it's good as they this when they turn 18. And are settled down and sick of the attention when there 21.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Called her up today (Wednesday), went to voicemail, left a mssg told her to call me back. Didn't hear anything so I txted her that "its a no go THursday", just to kind of save face. She responded with "?" and i texted back "Salsa." to which she replied "Ahh gotcha." wtf?
This was a cold pick up mind you at a pool hall. I'd say I'm a pretty good looking guy with good conversational skills. So even a guy like me who's not want for dates strikes out.
I'd say the age difference might have freaked her out. I'd say I look like I'm in my late twenties while I"m actually just in my mid twenties.
Anyone have any insight into girls this age? My impression is that they've got so much going on in life they're very flimsy.
I'll revisit this in a week or two.
BigDawg
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A ton of gold bricks lands in your lap and you're worried that they aren't shiny enough?Originally posted by KenJones
Sounds like all kinds of issues can come up, but she's mad cool and seems genuinely interested in dating. How do i approach this without having this blow up in my face?
Be cool. Just be cool. Remember, you're the commodity, not her.