"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm 20 with virtually no sex drive

DeMarco91

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So yea title says it all. I don't get myself off either or ever really have the desire to. I'll get morning wood like just a few times a month.

I thinks it's bit of a problem because I'd bet almost every other girl is gonna wanna get it on way more often than me and that type of mismatch is no good. I mean hell I've turned down a 3 some before just because of this.


Any other young guys with same problem or a solution? Thanks!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Quiksilver

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Can you distinguish between psychological sex drive and biological sex drive?

Do you masturbate daily?

Do you have low self esteem and self confidence?

Do you get enough sleep?

Are you more than overweight (fat)?

Hows your diet?

Are you like your father?

What age was he when you were conceived?

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All those can affect sex drive, though I do not think at your age that diet should greatly influence sex drive unless its abysmal.

I turned down a threesome once, but only because I broke my jaw the week before and my face was puffed up like a chipmunk. The girls didn't know this and by the time I recovered the opportunity was gone. :)

Still haunts me.
 

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Quiksilver said:
Can you distinguish between psychological sex drive and biological sex drive?
How do you mean?

Quiksilver said:
Do you masturbate daily?
No like a few times a month 1-3 but not a big urge or to anything.

Quiksilver said:
Do you have low self esteem and self confidence?
I don't think so..

Quiksilver said:
Do you get enough sleep?
I try to get at least 6-8 hours sleep. Always have a hard time falling asleep though.

Quiksilver said:
Are you more than overweight (fat)?
No = 5'6 @ 142

Quiksilver said:
Hows your diet?
I'd say better than the average American but right now it's kinda meh cause I don't have my blender back yet.

Quiksilver said:
Are you like your father?
I try my best not to be. Guys a pushover.

Quiksilver said:
What age was he when you were conceived?
Like 42

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A lot of people in my family have thyroid problems and I want to say that's it but I have this gut feeling it's not =/..

Dang, how'd you break your jaw?
 

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Sounds like you have a problem that heavy weight lifiting and a high fat diet can cure. Look up diets for raising testosterone. Start working out and eating lots of fish, red meat, bacon, oysters, almonds, avocados, beans, etc. You'll see a big difference in sex drive.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Aside from what the above people say try cutting the porn as well if you watch, that can help with sex drive. Overexposure to naked women in porn can play tricks on the mind.

Then as well, starting to lift or exercise in general is a good place to go.
 

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Personally, I've never seen a young man, no matter whether if he does any exercising and eats healthy, or not, who didn't have either a lot of sex or a buttload of masturbation... but if you personally don't have a problem with it, why worry? For pick-ups, you can actually use it to your advantage if you're not horny all the time ...
 

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Lifeforce said:
Aside from what the above people say try cutting the porn as well if you watch, that can help with sex drive. Overexposure to naked women in porn can play tricks on the mind.
That or try more extreme fetish kinds :)

I actually found if I watched things not overtly sexual but with subtle eroticism (classic movies are often good for this) it builds suspense a bit more.
 

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I'm shocked no one has suggested the obvious solution of oh i don't know seeing a FVCKING DOCTOR!

I'm a bit of a hypochondriac but daamn, i dont fvck around when it comes to my family jewels and sex drive. This is something you can't be too embarrassed to talk about with a doctor. Procreation is basically the reason for existence. Get on this right away. You're probably fine, but why risk it?

Also are you on any medications? A lot of meds mess with your sex drive, especially those used to treat depression and anxiety.
 
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