"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm 20 with virtually no sex drive

DeMarco91

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So yea title says it all. I don't get myself off either or ever really have the desire to. I'll get morning wood like just a few times a month.

I thinks it's bit of a problem because I'd bet almost every other girl is gonna wanna get it on way more often than me and that type of mismatch is no good. I mean hell I've turned down a 3 some before just because of this.


Any other young guys with same problem or a solution? Thanks!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Can you distinguish between psychological sex drive and biological sex drive?

Do you masturbate daily?

Do you have low self esteem and self confidence?

Do you get enough sleep?

Are you more than overweight (fat)?

Hows your diet?

Are you like your father?

What age was he when you were conceived?

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All those can affect sex drive, though I do not think at your age that diet should greatly influence sex drive unless its abysmal.

I turned down a threesome once, but only because I broke my jaw the week before and my face was puffed up like a chipmunk. The girls didn't know this and by the time I recovered the opportunity was gone. :)

Still haunts me.
 

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Quiksilver said:
Can you distinguish between psychological sex drive and biological sex drive?
How do you mean?

Quiksilver said:
Do you masturbate daily?
No like a few times a month 1-3 but not a big urge or to anything.

Quiksilver said:
Do you have low self esteem and self confidence?
I don't think so..

Quiksilver said:
Do you get enough sleep?
I try to get at least 6-8 hours sleep. Always have a hard time falling asleep though.

Quiksilver said:
Are you more than overweight (fat)?
No = 5'6 @ 142

Quiksilver said:
Hows your diet?
I'd say better than the average American but right now it's kinda meh cause I don't have my blender back yet.

Quiksilver said:
Are you like your father?
I try my best not to be. Guys a pushover.

Quiksilver said:
What age was he when you were conceived?
Like 42

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A lot of people in my family have thyroid problems and I want to say that's it but I have this gut feeling it's not =/..

Dang, how'd you break your jaw?
 

speed dawg

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Sounds like you have a problem that heavy weight lifiting and a high fat diet can cure. Look up diets for raising testosterone. Start working out and eating lots of fish, red meat, bacon, oysters, almonds, avocados, beans, etc. You'll see a big difference in sex drive.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Aside from what the above people say try cutting the porn as well if you watch, that can help with sex drive. Overexposure to naked women in porn can play tricks on the mind.

Then as well, starting to lift or exercise in general is a good place to go.
 

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Personally, I've never seen a young man, no matter whether if he does any exercising and eats healthy, or not, who didn't have either a lot of sex or a buttload of masturbation... but if you personally don't have a problem with it, why worry? For pick-ups, you can actually use it to your advantage if you're not horny all the time ...
 

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Lifeforce said:
Aside from what the above people say try cutting the porn as well if you watch, that can help with sex drive. Overexposure to naked women in porn can play tricks on the mind.
That or try more extreme fetish kinds :)

I actually found if I watched things not overtly sexual but with subtle eroticism (classic movies are often good for this) it builds suspense a bit more.
 

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I'm shocked no one has suggested the obvious solution of oh i don't know seeing a FVCKING DOCTOR!

I'm a bit of a hypochondriac but daamn, i dont fvck around when it comes to my family jewels and sex drive. This is something you can't be too embarrassed to talk about with a doctor. Procreation is basically the reason for existence. Get on this right away. You're probably fine, but why risk it?

Also are you on any medications? A lot of meds mess with your sex drive, especially those used to treat depression and anxiety.
 
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