"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"I'll call you". well its third day now

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My position seems close to LJBF from last time with her.
I dont call her everyday, but i was clingy with her last visit. Been a wuss too. Looking to change all that, and start soon.
Now, after seing her she said ill call you (sunday night)
Its wednesday, im thinking tonight i should text her something

something like: Maybe you should buy me flowers, i dont wait around forever.

I NEED COUNSILING lol, give me some advice or is this cool?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I would hold off.

Normally I'll call you isn't a good sign from any women. Thats not to say they won't finally call you because many times they might.

You can afford to wait a week or more

If she has e-mail at that point write her something ****y and funny.
 

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when a girl says they'll call it means they wont.

but hey, if a girl is truly interested, she usually wont say that, but will call when u least expect it.
 

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yep not good sign. How about i text her

Had great dates this week, maybe you should wait a little longer to call me
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I-am-someone

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Umm... text her?
I thought I read somewhere on here you should never write anything to a woman you're trying to date.
Reasons?
It makes you come across as a wimp and leaves behind a trail of evidence which might come back and bite you in the ass.
 

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Not a good sign at all. Don't text her anything. Fvck that. 3 fvcking nights dude and still no call? I'll take that as her not being interested. If she was interested she would have called you by now. I mean..... How busy can she be? Don't you even dare ask her "Why didn't you call?" Thats a no no. I wouldn't be surprised if she gave you a response such as "My aunt is dying in the hospital" or "Her pet got hit by a car". The best thing you can do now is to not care. The next time you see her treat her like you would anybody else. "Hello" and "Goodbye" is more than enough. I say "next". Don't waste your time with this one.
 

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For christ's sake, stop saying "next her"! Just do whatever you feel like doing, but do something!
If you're going to "next" every girl that isn't interested in you because you messed up the first time, then you're never going to get anywhere.
The advice "next her" should be kept to a minimum at all costs. I am seeing this being said everywhere on this board. It doesn't help him, it just leaves him frustrated and most of all it means he'll just miss another chance to practice on a girl.
I'm not saying I know what you should do, but I am saying that you should do something. Like I have said before, you yourself know the answer to this best. If you have read the DJ Bible, what do you think is the wisest solution to this problem you are currently faced with? What does your heart tell you to do? What do your balls tell you to do? You know what you want, all you need to do is get it, be it her or be it someone else.
 

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So let me get this straight, on this site alot of guys seems to preach that you should wait 3-5 days before you call a girl but if she waits that long that means she isn't interested?
 

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Fatality that is interesting. Maybe he's running into a rules girl who is doing something similar?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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Originally posted by Ricky
Fatality that is interesting. Maybe he's running into a rules girl who is doing something similar?
Possibly. Some girls may not want to come off looking slutty/desperate and for some this is a gray area.
 

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You're trying to change your clingy habits, so now would be a good time to start. You have to accept if she is interested she will call and if she's not she won't. If you text her, it won't make any difference.

I dated someone a week ago and heard nothing, but I'm talking to other women, lining up other dates and getting on with my life.

Always try to be cool and indifferent. For an example of how effective this can be, read my recent thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=65653
 

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This isn't a problem when you talk to more than one woman at a time....

Be a man. Just say "NO" to One-itis...
 

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call in a day or two and act like nothing is wrong just talk like you normally would, and then cut off the conversation sorta mid way through.

i agree NEXT should only be used if the girl is just not budgeing at all. However if you call in a few and she picks up, that's obviously a step in the right direction
 

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How about you play with her cl!t so to make her want to have sex with you. Thus, she will like you.

As like what Dillinger suggests.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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