"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I'll admit it, I know what I really want...

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Do any of you guys want a girl that kisses your butt and worships the ground that you walk on? I kind of do.

Now the only times I've had that is when the girl is not attractive to me and stalker like.

And yes long term this as a strategy might not be too great, but after having a very bossy ex gf for a while, the pendulum must swing the other way.

This new girl is kind of awesome, but definitely very independent and doesn't necessarily worship the ground I walk on yet. LOL. She is always happy to see me and hang out with me though.

However I just got off the phone with another new girl who unfortunately lives halfway across the country but might be able to get me a job where she works, etc. She was so fricking happy to hear from me.

So sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have a girl totally wrapped around my finger. I know it would get old, but it would be cool.

At least this new girl I'm going out is willing to drive a ways to see me. My ex would rarely drive to meet me across town. I always had to pick her up.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Very good way of framing that.

You are right!

I hate girls that always have to argue about anywhere you choose to go, or what you do.
 

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If you had a girl that kissed your ass, you'd be bored in about a week. Ask me how I know this. Give me a fun girl, with attitude and intelligence and I'm all over it.
 

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Originally posted by MRomeo99
If you had a girl that kissed your ass, you'd be bored in about a week. Ask me how I know this. Give me a fun girl, with attitude and intelligence and I'm all over it.
Agreed. Give me a woman who's a challenge even if we're in a relationship. You all know that it's the challenge that keeps things interesting if you're a guy, so why not require her to be the same?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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expanding on that theme...

Originally posted by disciple
I like women who have no problem being led by a strong, dominant man and who puts her man's interests first.
I like men who like women who have no problem being led by a strong dominant man etc. etc., but who then goes off every now & then without making ME go with -- I don't care where: Paris, the corner bar, wherever -- because it's GREAT to have my free time. Even if it's just to listen to the silence. Or drink *too much* wine with the girls, or talk for 20 hours on the phone. Every girl I know digs that -- we like it when you come over, and we like it when you leave. Just being honest
 
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