Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I remember reading an article in the Mature Man section about women who wanted to get careers and develop them before they even thought about men, and they thought they could still have children with artificial insemination, and a man was always second to her career.Atom Smasher said:Can you imagine what she must hear on a regular basis in order to be so passionate about these things? Even just to be thinking about these things in the first place...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Haha! Wow. Now that's how you learn a lesson, the hard and permanent way. She wasted her time and now she ended up with nothing.ArcBound said:I remember reading an article in the Mature Man section about women who wanted to get careers and develop them before they even thought about men, and they thought they could still have children with artificial insemination, and a man was always second to her career.
She wrote an article several years later saying she messed up and should have married when she had the chance and she basically said she was regretful (as much as a woman can admit to being wrong anyways).
Ah, I see that the proliferation of Propaganda starts EARLY...