“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If your wife threatens a divorce, how do you handle?

oboman

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Any married man here?

I'm no where near a don juan, which is why my wife threatens to divorce me. I know no fault, but how would you guys here handle such situation?

Thanks for any tips and input.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Act like you don't care and beat her to the punch, or threaten to.
 

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Read my thread about "Counselors..". There is a message in there for you.

Here is a tip - never submit to threats, or obey demands for blackmail money, or negotiate with terrorists.
 
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My opinion is that once a woman even brings up the D word, it is GOING to happen, it's just a matter of time. I would start preparing for the eventuality, squirreling away cash that she won't know about or is able to get to. I don't think a bank account is safe for this, because her lawyer may be able to find it?

As Jophil says, you can't give in to threats. If there are legitimate issues, you can try to work these out, but not under threat of divorce.
 
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I agree with the above advice. Threatening to divorce you is their final trump card - it's like a man giving you a sucker punch. You can either fold and become her b*tch or you can fight back by accepting.

You owe her nothing now and need to contact your lawer to protect your interests. Its going to be a rollercoaster ride from now on mate - read my thread in the tips section on how to handle the actual event and welcome to the club.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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oboman said:
Any married man here?

I'm no where near a don juan, which is why my wife threatens to divorce me. I know no fault, but how would you guys here handle such situation?

Thanks for any tips and input.
Play along nicely, do whatever she needs. Do so only to BUY YOURSELF TIME. If she's making threats it's time to leave. What you should be doing is transferring your assets overseas or to family, building up a nest egg to cover the divorce, and make damn sure you both have separate accounts and she's got her own job. If you can take a lower paying job that brings you closer to parity in pay, assuming she makes less, then do that as well. The system is completely biased against men and you need to protect yourself, as well as your assets and future income.

Check out Fire Your Wife and then read these books:

Taken Into Custody by Dr. Stephen Baskerville

That B!tch: How to protect yourself

Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce
 
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I think it's a little premature to contact a lawyer. Lawyers cost money.
But I agree with Nutz, play along nicely to buy yourself time, that sounds like solid advice.
I don't think a divorce is necessarily imminent, but it is likely inevitable.
It could be months, or years, before she pulls the trigger.
 

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Exactly. That is the perfect response.

ONLY once you have your ducks in a row. If she does like the OP says, then he does like I said above, and then in 6 months when she starts up again with threatening divorce he should go for it. Just make sure he files first.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I agree with above. One to two times a week from now on goto the grocery store buy 5$ in grocerys and take out an extra 50-60$ in cash, give it to your brother or someone you trust. Once she files the paper work she is going to start tracking all the money. She might still love you but no longer respects you, start worrying about YOU..
 

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Flip every possible asset you can into cash, then give it to someone you trust.

Split up the accounts, make sure all credit cards are in her name.

Then next time she brings it up...take squirrels advice.

Make sure SHE leaves, not you. Furniture and home furnishings are expensive to replace; believe me I've been there.
 

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If you bring her to my court, we shall laugh heartily as she is thrown off the cliff in front of my palace.

But "there's the door" is the mentality you must cultivate.

If divorce becomes imminent, I would liquidate all assets, buy gold, and bury it under a tree until everything is finalized.

Hell, it'll be worth more when you dig it up.
 

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After 2 divorces, let me chime in.

IMHO, once the word "divorce" is uttered in the house the marriage is probably over. Most people - especially people in their first marriage only look at divorce as a last option, but once the word is said and thought is given to it, suddenly it doesn't seem so bad.

Start making some decisions for yourself and figure out what YOU want to happen.
 

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Dear Oboman,
Never judge a Woman by what she says,rather watch what she does.....The Dog that is going to attack you rarely warns you of his intent by barking,he just does it,that's how my two divorces went,out of the blue,emotional Pearl Harbours...No this is a cry for attention,give it to her in a cool rational manner,my initial reaction would be "That's a bit extreme isn't it?what did I do this time?leave the top off the toothpaste"so defuse things a bit,use a little humour....A highly intelligent friend of mine had his wife confront him thus over leaving a soggy dish cloth in the sink,he's still with her...The one thing you don't want to do is lay the law down and beat your chest,won't work in 2009,they have to many bvitchy mates to give them advice,too many bolt holes....Sure surrupticiously secrete some brass,see a Solicitor,work out a plan of action should the axe fall,if you have to vacate in a hurry think what you need to grab and where you are going to put it,have a good friend wised up to help you....remember any overt reaction on your part will be seen as an escalation by her,once you start down that road it leads to one place only...In our actions we often initiate in others their anticipated reactions..So consider whether you want her and if you do maybe take her on a holiday,keep her happy,defuse this silly situation,perhaps she has some dumbassed divorcee pals whose life style looks a little alluring,that's often the case,but then again maybe working so hard to put the fruit on the sideboard you have dropped your game a bit,it's not easy is it?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Unless she has bi-polar disease or told you that while she was drunk, it's a more serious matter to consider. Ironically, if she seems to maintain that "i'm gonna divorce you if/or/because" the proper way to handle this is to call her bluff. (It's a bluff. If she wanted a divorce she would show you papers)

I mean....

Why would I stay with someone who even DARES to threaten me in such a fashion?!

Let her know that you are not threatened by it, and let's see what she has to say. Her move.



Women... who the hell they think they're messing with.
 

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Granted the be all, end all solution to this is to NOT GET MARRIED in the first place.
 

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oboman said:
Any married man here?

I'm no where near a don juan, which is why my wife threatens to divorce me. I know no fault, but how would you guys here handle such situation?

Thanks for any tips and input.
THis kind of threat may be have several explanations or a few different underlying objectives.
The first move is to stabilize yourself and reduce your panic so that you can think and act clearly.

I would say," A divorce ? Sounds serious. When would you like to sit down and discuss the details?"

Her response to this calm approach by you will tell you a lot in itself.
IF she is indeed serious, then she will be ready to talk this out. That means that she is preparing to move on with her life and has planned this moment (usually with the "'help and support"of her divorced single mommy friends who also can't maintain or sustain an adult relationship).

IF she becomes hissy and emotional when you suggest "a talk" , then I would suspect that this threat is faked-up attention seeking. Make no mistake, she is upset. The question is about what ?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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