Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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If you were never exclusive with a girl...

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If you were never in a monogamous relationship with a girl, but you two stated that you liked each other... should you feel butthurt that she's having sex with other dudes?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Argyle said:
If you were never in a monogamous relationship with a girl, but you two stated that you liked each other... should you feel butthurt that she's having sex with other dudes?
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I think it's okay to be disappointed if a casual dating situation didn't lead to something more...define "butthurt." Your emotional investment should be minimal until she's sliding up and down on your d*ck.

When long-term relationships fail, you have heartbreak. When casual dating situations fail that you wanted to lead to something more, you should only have disappointment.
 
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Argyle said:
If you were never in a monogamous relationship with a girl, but you two stated that you liked each other... should you feel butthurt that she's having sex with other dudes?
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Why I like you too Argyle! It was HER invitation for you to escalate.

Did you?
 
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Logistical issues. Distance was a factor.

Since in this case I would not consider it cheating, does this mean that I can still consider this girl as a prospect, should she prove herself to me / convince me?

Will responding to her future advances once we are physically together DLV, due to the past?
 
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She's a slvt. Read my sig.
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Because she has sex without being in a relationship? Come on, man, you're poisoning our minds.

Argyle,

If distance is holding you back from escalating, I do not see this woman working out for you. Keep her on the back burner until you two meet, but don't go out of your way to get together. There are way better prospects out there for you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Thanks BeginningDJ. I definitely do not plan on making her a priority... but I am curious about what intimacy is like when I get closer to her a few months from now.

Just wanted this forum's input, on whether or not I lost value in her eyes due to the circumstances.
 
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