"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you were never in a monogamous relationship with a girl, but you two stated that you liked each other... should you feel butthurt that she's having sex with other dudes?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Argyle said:
If you were never in a monogamous relationship with a girl, but you two stated that you liked each other... should you feel butthurt that she's having sex with other dudes?
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I think it's okay to be disappointed if a casual dating situation didn't lead to something more...define "butthurt." Your emotional investment should be minimal until she's sliding up and down on your d*ck.

When long-term relationships fail, you have heartbreak. When casual dating situations fail that you wanted to lead to something more, you should only have disappointment.
 
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Argyle said:
If you were never in a monogamous relationship with a girl, but you two stated that you liked each other... should you feel butthurt that she's having sex with other dudes?
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Why I like you too Argyle! It was HER invitation for you to escalate.

Did you?
 
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Logistical issues. Distance was a factor.

Since in this case I would not consider it cheating, does this mean that I can still consider this girl as a prospect, should she prove herself to me / convince me?

Will responding to her future advances once we are physically together DLV, due to the past?
 
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She's a slvt. Read my sig.
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Because she has sex without being in a relationship? Come on, man, you're poisoning our minds.

Argyle,

If distance is holding you back from escalating, I do not see this woman working out for you. Keep her on the back burner until you two meet, but don't go out of your way to get together. There are way better prospects out there for you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks BeginningDJ. I definitely do not plan on making her a priority... but I am curious about what intimacy is like when I get closer to her a few months from now.

Just wanted this forum's input, on whether or not I lost value in her eyes due to the circumstances.
 
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