Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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If you were never exclusive with a girl...

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If you were never in a monogamous relationship with a girl, but you two stated that you liked each other... should you feel butthurt that she's having sex with other dudes?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Argyle said:
If you were never in a monogamous relationship with a girl, but you two stated that you liked each other... should you feel butthurt that she's having sex with other dudes?
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I think it's okay to be disappointed if a casual dating situation didn't lead to something more...define "butthurt." Your emotional investment should be minimal until she's sliding up and down on your d*ck.

When long-term relationships fail, you have heartbreak. When casual dating situations fail that you wanted to lead to something more, you should only have disappointment.
 
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Argyle said:
If you were never in a monogamous relationship with a girl, but you two stated that you liked each other... should you feel butthurt that she's having sex with other dudes?
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Why I like you too Argyle! It was HER invitation for you to escalate.

Did you?
 
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Logistical issues. Distance was a factor.

Since in this case I would not consider it cheating, does this mean that I can still consider this girl as a prospect, should she prove herself to me / convince me?

Will responding to her future advances once we are physically together DLV, due to the past?
 
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She's a slvt. Read my sig.
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Because she has sex without being in a relationship? Come on, man, you're poisoning our minds.

Argyle,

If distance is holding you back from escalating, I do not see this woman working out for you. Keep her on the back burner until you two meet, but don't go out of your way to get together. There are way better prospects out there for you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Thanks BeginningDJ. I definitely do not plan on making her a priority... but I am curious about what intimacy is like when I get closer to her a few months from now.

Just wanted this forum's input, on whether or not I lost value in her eyes due to the circumstances.
 
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