"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you send a date text and no reply, then you see her around

big weezy

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how should you behave?

if i sent a date text to which there was no reply, OR a fluff text which doesn't necessarily need a reply but would be ideal, and she doesn't reply THEN i see her about a few days later, how should i act towards her?

i know indifferent and aloof and not caring at all, but should you attempt to ask her out again after tryna build some more rapport?

or should you just act indifferent and not interested anymore seeing as she didn't reply to your first offer?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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big weezy said:
how should you behave?

if i sent a date text to which there was no reply, OR a fluff text which doesn't necessarily need a reply but would be ideal, and she doesn't reply THEN i see her about a few days later, how should i act towards her?

i know indifferent and aloof and not caring at all, but should you attempt to ask her out again after tryna build some more rapport?

or should you just act indifferent and not interested anymore seeing as she didn't reply to your first offer?
Not getting a response to a fluff text is irrelevant.

The only way i'd ask a woman for a date/to meet through text is if we'd already established a sexual relationship (otherwise - i'd do it on the phone). But assuming i was the type who'd ask women out on first dates via text - i'd just act completely indifferent to her if i saw her out after a non-response.

I'd act in a way that demonstrates that the wave of interest i had in her is gone. I also wouldn't make much effort for rapport and defintely would not ask her back out. If she wants to pull me back in - she can. But i certainly am not putting any more effort into turning a spark into a flame.
 

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bukowski_merit said:
Not getting a response to a fluff text is irrelevant.

The only way i'd ask a woman for a date/to meet through text is if we'd already established a sexual relationship (otherwise - i'd do it on the phone). But assuming i was the type who'd ask women out on first dates via text - i'd just act completely indifferent to her if i saw her out after a non-response.

I'd act in a way that demonstrates that the wave of interest i had in her is gone. I also wouldn't make much effort for rapport and defintely would not ask her back out. If she wants to pull me back in - she can. But i certainly am not putting any more effort into turning a spark into a flame.
what if she comes up to you to talk?

I've had girls in the past who have not replied then came up to me to say 'ohh im soooo sorry i didnt respond i was busy blah blah blah.'
 

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bukowski_merit said:
Not getting a response to a fluff text is irrelevant.

The only way i'd ask a woman for a date/to meet through text is if we'd already established a sexual relationship (otherwise - i'd do it on the phone). But assuming i was the type who'd ask women out on first dates via text - i'd just act completely indifferent to her if i saw her out after a non-response.

I'd act in a way that demonstrates that the wave of interest i had in her is gone. I also wouldn't make much effort for rapport and defintely would not ask her back out. If she wants to pull me back in - she can. But i certainly am not putting any more effort into turning a spark into a flame.
But if i haven't established enough interest/rapport with her in my first meeting, would it not be advisable to try to reestablish and improve on it if i see her or would that most likely backfire as she'll know she has me?

I guess I need to accept i didn't do a good enough job first time round so no point trying to increase IL even more as it'll probably wont work.
 

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Fluff is for the weak. If she legitimately disrespected you by not responding to something real, is she really worthy of your attention when you run into her?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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