"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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big weezy

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how should you behave?

if i sent a date text to which there was no reply, OR a fluff text which doesn't necessarily need a reply but would be ideal, and she doesn't reply THEN i see her about a few days later, how should i act towards her?

i know indifferent and aloof and not caring at all, but should you attempt to ask her out again after tryna build some more rapport?

or should you just act indifferent and not interested anymore seeing as she didn't reply to your first offer?
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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big weezy said:
how should you behave?

if i sent a date text to which there was no reply, OR a fluff text which doesn't necessarily need a reply but would be ideal, and she doesn't reply THEN i see her about a few days later, how should i act towards her?

i know indifferent and aloof and not caring at all, but should you attempt to ask her out again after tryna build some more rapport?

or should you just act indifferent and not interested anymore seeing as she didn't reply to your first offer?
Not getting a response to a fluff text is irrelevant.

The only way i'd ask a woman for a date/to meet through text is if we'd already established a sexual relationship (otherwise - i'd do it on the phone). But assuming i was the type who'd ask women out on first dates via text - i'd just act completely indifferent to her if i saw her out after a non-response.

I'd act in a way that demonstrates that the wave of interest i had in her is gone. I also wouldn't make much effort for rapport and defintely would not ask her back out. If she wants to pull me back in - she can. But i certainly am not putting any more effort into turning a spark into a flame.
 

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bukowski_merit said:
Not getting a response to a fluff text is irrelevant.

The only way i'd ask a woman for a date/to meet through text is if we'd already established a sexual relationship (otherwise - i'd do it on the phone). But assuming i was the type who'd ask women out on first dates via text - i'd just act completely indifferent to her if i saw her out after a non-response.

I'd act in a way that demonstrates that the wave of interest i had in her is gone. I also wouldn't make much effort for rapport and defintely would not ask her back out. If she wants to pull me back in - she can. But i certainly am not putting any more effort into turning a spark into a flame.
what if she comes up to you to talk?

I've had girls in the past who have not replied then came up to me to say 'ohh im soooo sorry i didnt respond i was busy blah blah blah.'
 

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bukowski_merit said:
Not getting a response to a fluff text is irrelevant.

The only way i'd ask a woman for a date/to meet through text is if we'd already established a sexual relationship (otherwise - i'd do it on the phone). But assuming i was the type who'd ask women out on first dates via text - i'd just act completely indifferent to her if i saw her out after a non-response.

I'd act in a way that demonstrates that the wave of interest i had in her is gone. I also wouldn't make much effort for rapport and defintely would not ask her back out. If she wants to pull me back in - she can. But i certainly am not putting any more effort into turning a spark into a flame.
But if i haven't established enough interest/rapport with her in my first meeting, would it not be advisable to try to reestablish and improve on it if i see her or would that most likely backfire as she'll know she has me?

I guess I need to accept i didn't do a good enough job first time round so no point trying to increase IL even more as it'll probably wont work.
 

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Fluff is for the weak. If she legitimately disrespected you by not responding to something real, is she really worthy of your attention when you run into her?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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