"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If you say money doesn't buy love you haven't seen this!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
VladPatton
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Holy $hitballs, that dude behind him is just handing him stacks of cash. If you aren't happy with a lot of money, you don't know where to shop!
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Money doesn't buy happiness.
Money obviously doesn't mean much to that rich Arab, but it doesn't mean much to me either, and I'm almost poor.
Money can buy you pvssy - and it's bought me some - but the high it gives you wears off. It's like any drug: eventually, you sober up and find yourself back at square one.
Simple, fleeting pleasures don't bring meaning to life. They just pass time.
Is that all you want to achieve in your life - to pass time until you die?
Find something worth living for. Something that continues on.
Money obviously doesn't mean much to that rich Arab, but it doesn't mean much to me either, and I'm almost poor.
Money can buy you pvssy - and it's bought me some - but the high it gives you wears off. It's like any drug: eventually, you sober up and find yourself back at square one.
Simple, fleeting pleasures don't bring meaning to life. They just pass time.
Is that all you want to achieve in your life - to pass time until you die?
Find something worth living for. Something that continues on.
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In my opinion, money is the foundation to everything that is called LIFE (on this side of life, not in the afterlife).
I want you guys to name me one thing you can either acquire, grow/develop or maintain that DOESN'T involve money?
- Love for your family? Okay, what house are you going to live in to maintain that love? What clothes are you going to acquire to dress decently to impress the girl in the first place? What date are you going to go on, what car will you drive, when the kids get sick they need health services which means someone should be paying for the healthcare, you have to feed the family, put utilities on for the family, etc. Doesn't ALL of this involve money?
- Health? Yes, you have to pay for health insurance, doctor visits, dentist visits, the right foods, exercise equipment, etc. Doesn't ALL of this involve money?
- Being Spiritual? I don't know how you can be spiritual without getting a copy of that religion's covenant or bible. Last I checked, those weren't free, you had to buy those books. Doesn't that involve money? The temple or church you go to worship in, doesn't that involve money as it's through your donations they are able to build that temple and keep it updated?
- Your Freedom and Peace? Right, as much as America hates them right now, the Cops are a big part of your peace and freedom, and they cost money. What about the military? That costs money.
- Real Friends? Again, with these friends, where are you going to hang out at? Even if you said a freaking tree house, that tree house cost money.
- Happiness? Let's see how happy you stay if you are hungry and can't eat, homeless with no place to stay, have to get around with no transportation, cold with no clothes to put on, etc. All of that involves money.
Money is the foundation of everything because money either allows you to acquire, grow/develop or maintain a relationship, a feeling, freedom, peace, prosperity, good health, a sound mind, etc., etc.
I want you guys to name me one thing you can either acquire, grow/develop or maintain that DOESN'T involve money?
- Love for your family? Okay, what house are you going to live in to maintain that love? What clothes are you going to acquire to dress decently to impress the girl in the first place? What date are you going to go on, what car will you drive, when the kids get sick they need health services which means someone should be paying for the healthcare, you have to feed the family, put utilities on for the family, etc. Doesn't ALL of this involve money?
- Health? Yes, you have to pay for health insurance, doctor visits, dentist visits, the right foods, exercise equipment, etc. Doesn't ALL of this involve money?
- Being Spiritual? I don't know how you can be spiritual without getting a copy of that religion's covenant or bible. Last I checked, those weren't free, you had to buy those books. Doesn't that involve money? The temple or church you go to worship in, doesn't that involve money as it's through your donations they are able to build that temple and keep it updated?
- Your Freedom and Peace? Right, as much as America hates them right now, the Cops are a big part of your peace and freedom, and they cost money. What about the military? That costs money.
- Real Friends? Again, with these friends, where are you going to hang out at? Even if you said a freaking tree house, that tree house cost money.
- Happiness? Let's see how happy you stay if you are hungry and can't eat, homeless with no place to stay, have to get around with no transportation, cold with no clothes to put on, etc. All of that involves money.
Money is the foundation of everything because money either allows you to acquire, grow/develop or maintain a relationship, a feeling, freedom, peace, prosperity, good health, a sound mind, etc., etc.
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Every time I see these Arab oil sheikhs with these smoking hot broads now I'm always wondering if he's sh!tting on her. Mind you that chick looks Arab and hence probably not a symbol of the decadent and deviant West so I doubt she's a porta potti.
http://www.returnofkings.com/57833/...ter-allowing-arab-princes-to-defecate-on-them
http://www.returnofkings.com/57833/...ter-allowing-arab-princes-to-defecate-on-them
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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She wasn't hot.
Money doesn't buy happiness..... but it buys just about everything else....
Money doesn't buy happiness..... but it buys just about everything else....
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Everything else is nothing. Have you ever bought anything that brought you lasting happiness? Or do you always find yourself searching for something more?The_flying_dutchman said:
Tighten up. Look inside yourself. What would you do if you died manana? Cause you might. I might, too.
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The_flying_dutchman
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TyTe`EyEz said:
Bruh, there is no one thing that will bring everlasting happiness.
My happiness comes from a sense of accomplishment, and money is a good measure of how far I've gone from where I started...
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backseatjuan
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& what is happines? Chemical composition! Receptors have a certain dynamic, that they get used to and you need more and more, thus the ever lasting chase of the dragon for the happiness. Anyone saw happy old people? Money can help accomplish this need, if you ever get sick and tired of your old bugatti veyron you could just buy another ultra supercar.
Speaking of money and love and women, I just remembered this other vid which is equally good!
Got no game and a lot of money?? This is how to get women! https://youtu.be/JXc_HkWgjuA
Speaking of money and love and women, I just remembered this other vid which is equally good!
Got no game and a lot of money?? This is how to get women! https://youtu.be/JXc_HkWgjuA
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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The_flying_dutchman said:
You're both right. Happiness is an emotion, and like all emotions it's short-lived. All I was trying to say is that it's better to search for inner peace than happiness. Inner peace is always within reach.backseatjuan said:
I know I sound like a hippie haha.
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Certainly. I'm not saying that you don't have to work. I just think there is a point of diminishing returns.jimjam said:
taiyuu_otoko
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There's a lot of ways to make money.
There's a lot of ways to become happy.
But generally speaking, the same things that make a human happy (setting and pursuing worthy goals that are ALSO valuable to others in some way, getting you genuine, positive social feedback, which increases your happiness) ALSO will generally make you a sh!t ton of money.
And those since almost every last one of those oil shieks INHERITED their money, rather than got the pleasure of earning it, they are not happy because of it.
Neither that dude nor the girl in the vid looks too happy.
There's a lot of ways to become happy.
But generally speaking, the same things that make a human happy (setting and pursuing worthy goals that are ALSO valuable to others in some way, getting you genuine, positive social feedback, which increases your happiness) ALSO will generally make you a sh!t ton of money.
And those since almost every last one of those oil shieks INHERITED their money, rather than got the pleasure of earning it, they are not happy because of it.
Neither that dude nor the girl in the vid looks too happy.
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user43770
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Great post taiyuu, but I think you're conflating happiness with inner peace.
Plenty of things make me happy: alcohol, drugs, coffee, sex, video games, etc.
The things that you mentioned that bring happiness, I would say actually bring inner peace:
Evolution never stops. By our striving to be better, future generations will be better.
Plenty of things make me happy: alcohol, drugs, coffee, sex, video games, etc.
The things that you mentioned that bring happiness, I would say actually bring inner peace:
I think we find inner peace when we're doing what is supposed to be done - on an evolutionary level.taiyuu_otoko said:
Evolution never stops. By our striving to be better, future generations will be better.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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There is nothing that you can buy that will bring everlasting happiness.
Happiness is a choice.
A poor dude can choose to be happy or he can choose to be miserable.
A rich dude can choose to be happy or he can choose to be miserable...
... the only difference is that the rich dude has more options and opportunities available which can make it easier for him to be happy...
.... therefore, the pursuit of money brings a higher probability of happiness...
Happiness is a choice.
A poor dude can choose to be happy or he can choose to be miserable.
A rich dude can choose to be happy or he can choose to be miserable...
... the only difference is that the rich dude has more options and opportunities available which can make it easier for him to be happy...
.... therefore, the pursuit of money brings a higher probability of happiness...
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I just imagine a bunch of money getting thrown on the ground and you going chasing after it.The_flying_dutchman said:
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See how far you've made it. Bruh.
taiyuu_otoko
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Another thing that in and of itself "money" is kind of vague.
Money that has been honestly earned is both a RESULT of happiness and an accurate predictor of FUTURE HAPPINESS.
If you steal money, win money, print money, inherit money, find money etc, all bets are off.
Money that has been honestly earned is both a RESULT of happiness and an accurate predictor of FUTURE HAPPINESS.
If you steal money, win money, print money, inherit money, find money etc, all bets are off.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.