Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Everything else is nothing. Have you ever bought anything that brought you lasting happiness? Or do you always find yourself searching for something more?The_flying_dutchman said:She wasn't hot.
Money doesn't buy happiness..... but it buys just about everything else....
TyTe`EyEz said:Everything else is nothing. Have you ever bought anything that brought you lasting happiness? Or do you always find yourself searching for something more?
Tighten up. Look inside yourself. What would you do if you died manana? Cause you might. I might, too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The_flying_dutchman said:Bruh, there is no one thing that will bring everlasting happiness.
You're both right. Happiness is an emotion, and like all emotions it's short-lived. All I was trying to say is that it's better to search for inner peace than happiness. Inner peace is always within reach.backseatjuan said:& what is happines? Chemical composition! Receptors have a certain dynamic, that they get used to and you need more and more, thus the ever lasting chase of the dragon for the happiness.
Certainly. I'm not saying that you don't have to work. I just think there is a point of diminishing returns.jimjam said:Woody Allen said that if you have your health, then you have everything. But you can' buy a loaf of bread with your health.
I think we find inner peace when we're doing what is supposed to be done - on an evolutionary level.taiyuu_otoko said:setting and pursuing worthy goals that are ALSO valuable to others in some way, getting you genuine, positive social feedback,
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I just imagine a bunch of money getting thrown on the ground and you going chasing after it.The_flying_dutchman said:A rich dude can choose to be happy or he can choose to be miserable...
... the only difference is that the rich dude has more options and opportunities available which can make it easier for him to be happy...
.... therefore, the pursuit of money brings a higher probability of happiness...
This.Social_Leper said:If you think money doesn't buy happiness you're doing it wrong.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.