That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Everything else is nothing. Have you ever bought anything that brought you lasting happiness? Or do you always find yourself searching for something more?The_flying_dutchman said:She wasn't hot.
Money doesn't buy happiness..... but it buys just about everything else....
TyTe`EyEz said:Everything else is nothing. Have you ever bought anything that brought you lasting happiness? Or do you always find yourself searching for something more?
Tighten up. Look inside yourself. What would you do if you died manana? Cause you might. I might, too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The_flying_dutchman said:Bruh, there is no one thing that will bring everlasting happiness.
You're both right. Happiness is an emotion, and like all emotions it's short-lived. All I was trying to say is that it's better to search for inner peace than happiness. Inner peace is always within reach.backseatjuan said:& what is happines? Chemical composition! Receptors have a certain dynamic, that they get used to and you need more and more, thus the ever lasting chase of the dragon for the happiness.
Certainly. I'm not saying that you don't have to work. I just think there is a point of diminishing returns.jimjam said:Woody Allen said that if you have your health, then you have everything. But you can' buy a loaf of bread with your health.
I think we find inner peace when we're doing what is supposed to be done - on an evolutionary level.taiyuu_otoko said:setting and pursuing worthy goals that are ALSO valuable to others in some way, getting you genuine, positive social feedback,
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I just imagine a bunch of money getting thrown on the ground and you going chasing after it.The_flying_dutchman said:A rich dude can choose to be happy or he can choose to be miserable...
... the only difference is that the rich dude has more options and opportunities available which can make it easier for him to be happy...
.... therefore, the pursuit of money brings a higher probability of happiness...
This.Social_Leper said:If you think money doesn't buy happiness you're doing it wrong.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.