If you got Bait and Switched by your Dental Hygenist - would you have walked out or continued...

[Mike32ct]

Yeah, when the lengthy dryspell continues interactions like these become highlights.

Exactly. For better or worse, the longer the dry spell, the more a guy will focus on platonic or professional interactions with women.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Exactly. For better or worse, the longer the dry spell, the more a guy will focus on platonic or professional interactions with women.

This must be one epic dry spell then

 

[corrector]

This must be one epic dry spell then

Over ten years and counting.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Over ten years and counting.

Maher different choices then if you want different results.

 

[corrector]

Maher different choices then if you want different results.

What choices do you think I am making? This might work with someone in their 20s, if you are on 50s territory, no money, low paying full time job, no hair, caregiver, then what major choices can you make that will change anything?

 

[sevbucmash]

Canada, more specifically, Toronto

I heard bad things about this city. Bad things. I'd advice you to move, but it's like best city in Canada, so..

United States is pretty good. Russian Federation is balling at the moment. China. Philippines. Indonesia. Vietnam. Brazil. Africa.
Africa is the world of its own. Our preconceived notions about it being 3rd world, just wrong.
Cuba. Venesuela. Columbia.

What you can do is choose a destination and get a visa and travel.

 

[zekko]

This morning I visited I showed up at my dentist for a teeth cleaning. The same lady has been cleaning my teeth since March 2013, this slim White Jewish lady that has preety face, and I expected to see her today. Except the office didn't tell me she went on leave and there would be another hygenist. Instead I got this fat, not so pretty Black lady with an African accent.

This is not an issue. If she was sick and asked someone to substitute, that seems like a professional thing to do. That said, I wouldn't be happy with the situation - I'm fond of my hygienist too - but oh well, things happen.

Maybe a better example would be someone who cuts your hair, bringing in someone else to cut your hair. There's a certain consistency that is maintained by having the same person cut your hair. But I can't imagine what difference a different hygienist would make. One might do a better job than another, but overall it shouldn't be an issue.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

What choices do you think I am making? This might work with someone in their 20s, if you are on 50s territory, no money, low paying full time job, no hair, caregiver, then what major choices can you make that will change anything?

How do you think you ended up in that position?

Let me guess...none of it was your fault and it's all on someone or something else.

 

[corrector]

How do you think you ended up in that position?

Let me guess...none of it was your fault and it's all on someone or something else.

You are condescending.

 

[corrector]

I heard bad things about this city. Bad things. I'd advice you to move, but it's like best city in Canada, so..

United States is pretty good. Russian Federation is balling at the moment. China. Philippines. Indonesia. Vietnam. Brazil. Africa.
Africa is the world of its own. Our preconceived notions about it being 3rd world, just wrong.
Cuba. Venesuela. Columbia.

What you can do is choose a destination and get a visa and travel.

Have no money to travel, and have to take care of my folks here at home while working a crappy full-time low paying job.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Let me guess...none of it was your fault and it's all on someone or something else.

Red Pill Theology dictates that our difficulties are MOSTLY the fault of The Gynocentric Social Order, Feminism, The Deep State, etc etc. Our own dysfunctional thoughts and beliefs + the behaviors they motivate aren't at least 50% responsible for the fates we find ourselves with

 

[sevbucmash]

no money to travel, and have to take care of my folks

That means you have to start a business, small, from home, then get an office maybe. Idea is to work for yourself. That way you become important. That will bring in everything else.

 

[corrector]

That means you have to start a business, small, from home, then get an office maybe. Idea is to work for yourself. That way you become important. That will bring in everything else.

I have been self-employed/independent contractor for the vast majority of my working years since I left University. I've often described being a Real-Estate agent as glorified underemployment at best and unemployment at worst. It's only as of recent I've ventured into the world of salaried work. My gross income this year is likely to be higher than any single year in the last decade, without having to worry about where the next money is coming from. This doesn't say much about Real-Estate which have had gross incomes as low as $ 4000K in some years (ie 2012), and the highs didn't go much higher than $ 30K gross at best. This is selling homes, etc...

The only difference with Real-Estate is that it felt more free as a profession when it did work. (ie you don't feel the hours, and has a more carefree vibe compared to call center work, but salaried work has a more on and off switch, whereas self-employment does not, you always feel on and have a guilty feeling because you could be working or doing more).

The thing that really spurred me into full-time selling insurance work was the covid benefit payments. Getting regular money from the government changed me, and I couldn't stand the unpredictablity of income anymore. Now I get paid more than the covid benefits at current place I am at.

That being said, the majority of business don't work out. It's only like a very small minority of business survive after the first five years. It's really brutal. Real-Estate was brutal when I did that, and still is today. You can't just say make a business like you are suggesting. This has to be a major passion project with a marketable idea that will sell to the general public. There are suggestions online for this, but the job I have is another stumbling block along with my caregiving durities at home. It's just too oppressive and time-consuming to put any sort of side-business. I can't even send out resumes and follow-up with job leads properly let alone start a business.

 

[Chow Mein]

How do you think you ended up in that position?

Let me guess...none of it was your fault and it's all on someone or something else.

C’mon man, why you need to do my boy corrector like that?

Let him be, we know this dude is not going to take advice and continues to earn the biggest troll ‘award’ on a random ass forum

 

[BillyPilgrim]

You are condescending.

Mostly reductivist though, which makes the condescension all the more funny.

 

[sevbucmash]

majority of business don't work out

Don't say. I do low level board work, notebooks, iphone, ipad, key fabs, engine modules. Easily 500 bucks a day on a slow day. I'm at a point in my life where no office is needed anymore, no walk-ins, just mail-ins, and presence on youtube. People watch you work. People send you work, often stuff that repair was already attempted on. You got your lab at home, no need to pay for an office and nobody to bother you.

 

[corrector]

Don't say. I do low level board work, notebooks, iphone, ipad, key fabs, engine modules. Easily 500 bucks a day on a slow day. I'm at a point in my life where no office is needed anymore, no walk-ins, just mail-ins, and presence on youtube. People watch you work. People send you work, often stuff that repair was already attempted on. You got your lab at home, no need to pay for an office and nobody to bother you.

What is your youtube channel?

 

[Clockwerk50]

I heard bad things about this city. Bad things. I'd advice you to move, but it's like best city in Canada, so..

United States is pretty good. Russian Federation is balling at the moment. China. Philippines. Indonesia. Vietnam. Brazil. Africa.
Africa is the world of its own. Our preconceived notions about it being 3rd world, just wrong.
Cuba. Venezuela. Colombia.

What you can do is choose a destination and get a visa and travel.

People who feel the need to travel to other cities solely for casual encounters often seem to lack the drive, purpose, or initiative to build meaningful connections, or a life worth sharing with others, where they are. Personally, I have no trouble finding what I'm looking for in Toronto, and my life is in a good place.

As an example, this 'passport bro' is a German guy living in Colombia. With his drive, charisma, energy, and resilience, he would have no trouble finding success in Germany—whether in dating or even just enjoying casual interactions. He wouldn’t need to look forward to his next dental cleaning for a chance to engage with women.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You are condescending.

No, just telling you the harah truth you never want to hear

 

[corrector]

No, just telling you the harah truth you never want to hear

You are condescending.