If we had status?No offense, but if we had status we would probably not be on this site.
Just plain status?
Here's an idea: have a point.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If we had status?No offense, but if we had status we would probably not be on this site.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Another thing people forget about is MONEY buys TIME.Money trumps everything for the reasons you mentioned. Because if you have money you could never get laid again and still have an enjoyable life.
Currently at the tail end of a near 3 week vacation to the East Coast of the states. Luxury apartment in NYC, hot dimes and fun days.
Can't wait until I'm making enough money / hold enough income generating assets to pursue a "4 hour work week" and spend more time on my actual passions like travelling, football, music, health and fitness, etc.
Anyone who says money doesn't buy happiness isn't using it properly. I'm having a great time.
"I'm talking about liquid. Rich enough to have your own jet. Rich enough not to waste time. Fifty, a hundred million dollars buddy. A player, or nothing."Another thing people forget about is MONEY buys TIME.
It is said that the most expensive thing a person can buy is themselves. That means your own TIME to spend the way you want. When you're struggling to pay rend and bills most of your time is lost on trying to get by.
Everyone understands the importance of MONEY. A lot of people just live in denial. Which is why they will stay broke.
I hear ya."I'm talking about liquid. Rich enough to have your own jet. Rich enough not to waste time. Fifty, a hundred million dollars buddy. A player, or nothing."
Watched Wall Street at 21. Changed my life. But by then I had already flunked college and had to spend another 5 years getting to where I could have already been in my first year out of school had I applied myself.
Rich enough not to waste time. Those words still resonate. If I had watched that film at 15 years old I would be a millionaire now.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
My cheapest property was 5K, improved to 8K, my most expensive is a small apartment building. My most recent purchase was a 9.5K house (yes, $9500.00) with a reliably paying tenant already in it. So yes, your average is about right. I buy things that have issues other people are afraid of, I solve the issues and I hold for income. People know I'm a potential buyer so they call me if they need to unload something. I have banks that do this. I specifically own in markets where I can buy decent property cheap (everything I own is well maintained and I'd live in any of my own units). I own in smaller markets and I do not care about appreciation. I end up with some forced appreciation however, because I buy at discounts (if a property needs a roof for example) but everything I have is structurally sound, and in good areas. I pay cash outright whenever I can, which is often. The last few I bought have all been cash so free & clear from the get-go. Some of my stuff is loaned at 100% purchase price with private money and interest only. But then I improve it with cash and create equity that way. Obviously my investor lends for the return he gets and hopes I never pay him off. This is a niche I am adept at. You will not get these kinds of returns in 100K and up properties by holding.So if your portfolio is $1,800,000 and you have 45 units, that's $40,000/unit?
What part of the country do you live in? Those seem like cheap units. What type of properties are they?
Is your usual purchasing strategy to purchase with 20% down?
Yeah well you are actually coming out ahead of me Neil, if it makes you feel any better. You don't have children. They are horrendously expensive. So are ex spouse's, lol@BeExcellent I think you are making more than me.
So I want to complain about the wage gap and cry Matriarchy.
This is the best post I have ever seen from you.No offense, but if we had status we would probably not be on this site.
You're not rich until your worth around 5 million, minimal. I do well enough, but I'm certainly no "rich bastard".
This is just a base statement from last year. It says it includes everything but it doesn't reflect true earning potential. This is what I earn with the minimal effort possible in my position.
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What this statement doesn't include is the following:
1) I only work 3-4 days/week. Anything beyond 3 and 1/2 days is overtime, which can be time and a half, double or triple time.
2) OT is virtually unlimited and I can work 7 days if I really wanted to.
3) I have a scheduled, paid week off every month, plus 3 weeks vaca. I can work my paid week off and collect a 80-100 hour paycheck, even if I still only work 3-4 days that week.
4) I collect travel and meal pay working out of district, which is frequent with OT. That can be an additional $150-200 per day.
5) I did none of the above in 2016 because I'd much rather be doing sh*t like this:
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If I wasn't a single dad with FT custody, I really wanted to be ambitious and didn't care about actually enjoying my life right now, I could probably earn about $250K+/yr.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.