"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It seems one of the prime places to go cruising, or "sarging" as you guys like to put it, is a club/bar.

The problem is I'm under 21, and I live in an area that doesn't have any "under 21" clubs. So what should I do to make up for it? Where are some other places I could go? Thanks in advance, guys. :woo:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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manbearpig said:
It seems one of the prime places to go cruising, or "sarging" as you guys like to put it, is a club/bar.

The problem is I'm under 21, and I live in an area that doesn't have any "under 21" clubs. So what should I do to make up for it? Where are some other places I could go? Thanks in advance, guys. :woo:
Try bookstores, libraries, colleges, malls...
First decide what type of woman you want.
Do you want a woman who works out? Go to a gym.
Do you want a woman who can dance well? Sign up for dancing lessons.
Get the vibe?
First decide the kind of woman you want and think, "If I were that woman, where would I go?" And go there. :)
 

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INXS said:
Try bookstores, libraries, colleges, malls...
First decide what type of woman you want.
Do you want a woman who works out? Go to a gym.
Do you want a woman who can dance well? Sign up for dancing lessons.
Get the vibe?
First decide the kind of woman you want and think, "If I were that woman, where would I go?" And go there.
I guess I gotta figure that out. I don't know what kind of woman I'm looking for to be honest... a woman? I know thats vague. :p

I just don't have enough experience yet to know I suppose.
 

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Get a fake! Scan your license into Photoshop...paste the 1 from 198y-whatever over the last digit - print it to high quality photo paper, put it in the window of your wallet. Unless you look like you're 12
 

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Mr80LBBalls said:
Get a fake! Scan your license into Photoshop...paste the 1 from 198y-whatever over the last digit - print it to high quality photo paper, put it in the window of your wallet. Unless you look like you're 12
I don't have the comp skills and necessary equipment to do that but thanks for the idea nonetheless.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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INXS said:
Try bookstores, libraries, colleges, malls...
First decide what type of woman you want.
Do you want a woman who works out? Go to a gym.
Do you want a woman who can dance well? Sign up for dancing lessons.
Get the vibe?
Personally I don't agree with this advice. I'd rather do something *I* like and see if there are any worthy girls. If you do EVERYTHING you'd like to do, eventually you'll find the perfect girl you are looking for + tons of other girls to bang.
 

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Adone said:
Personally I don't agree with this advice. I'd rather do something *I* like and see if there are any worthy girls. If you do EVERYTHING you'd like to do, eventually you'll find the perfect girl you are looking for + tons of other girls to bang.
Well, this makes sense too.

I really don't know know what to think.

The one thing I know is a reliable place to find good looking women around here at least is the grocery store. I'm an avid cooker and like to go there anyway, so seeing pretty womens always a plus for me.
 

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manbearpig said:
I don't have the comp skills and necessary equipment to do that but thanks for the idea nonetheless.
Hit up the Mall.

Best opener...find a woman who is walking by herself, and just start talking to her. Comment on her purse. "That is a big purse what you got in there a dog?" Just don't ask something creepy like "Where are you going?" or "You got a gun in there." Also if possible, if you can be subtle, follow her around a bit, or eye her to make sure she does not have a boyfriend with her. And if you can't be subtle, just try your hardest to be. Cus the minute she spots you following her, you will go from "cute guy in the mall" to "possible stalker.":crazy:
 

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Yeah man there are tons of girls at the mall at all times.

Oh yeah don't follow her around (wtf?) just go up and talk to her once you make eye contact and it looks good. Flash her a lil smile, and if she smiles back, you're already in.
 

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manbearpig said:
It seems one of the prime places to go cruising, or "sarging" as you guys like to put it, is a club/bar.

The problem is I'm under 21, and I live in an area that doesn't have any "under 21" clubs. So what should I do to make up for it? Where are some other places I could go? Thanks in advance, guys. :woo:
You're not missing too much. At least where I live, the majority of the clubs/bars are littered with people who are way too drunk and the music is way too loud to hold a conversation without yelling.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Adone said:
I'd rather do something *I* like and see if there are any worthy girls. If you do EVERYTHING you'd like to do, eventually you'll find the perfect girl you are looking for + tons of other girls to bang.
So much easier said then done. If everything you do is predominately male, then it's hard to meet women like that. At least it hasn't worked for me either way.
 

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PumpNightmare said:
So much easier said then done. If everything you do is predominately male, then it's hard to meet women like that. At least it hasn't worked for me either way.
Now, I do have one advantage in this area.

I'm very interested in cooking. Infact I'm going to be a chef for a living. So I have something I can easily talk to many women about, and it actually interests them.
 

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PumpNightmare said:
So much easier said then done. If everything you do is predominately male, then it's hard to meet women like that. At least it hasn't worked for me either way.
Not necessarily. If you are into "manly sports", you will befriend your teammates and they'll probably introduce you to their girl-friends (not girlfriends, girl-friends). That's just an example.
 
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