BB first post is a great sum up of the dangers of being complacent. As a man, having goals no matter how small stops us drifting into the humdrum of routine. Breaking down BB's post is in reality a wealth of information for anyone's relationship / or for stealing another guys girl (not that I recommend it).
And it’s as simple as break routine. As a guy finding the quickest, easiest and most productive way of doing things can sometimes spill over into all areas of my life. Doing this while you have no forward propulsion in improving yourself often leads to a rut like existence, which is ok for short stints. But don't wallow in there for years as it's a waste of life.
Guys tend to think
-if I'm loyal
-pay the bills
-work hard
That this should be enough to keep a woman interested (if you were going out with another guy it probably would be). But the fact is it isn't enough no matter how much we might biatch and moan about it. Women are emotion junkies. Reliability don't cut it
So not only do we need to have goals for ourselves we should also bring our partners along for the ride when possible (in areas that they have a common interest) to cement those feelings of moving ahead and making progress to us. So long as you are breaking up the monotony of the relationship by doing something new breaks up the ditz factor when they start a new job, hobby, lifestyle.
the girl, worked at the horse track with my wife but she like my wife gave it up, it's hard work and it's demanding work and it's not meant for women over the age of 25. she just gave it up a few months ago and she got this job as a receptionist at this office, and she has become, and without the guys Knowles she has become very crazy about a guy who works there at her office. i don't even know what the fvck he does but from what i understand he is good but not great looking, but he is very cool and from what i understand, makes very good money. drives a beamer, dresses like an adult is supposed to dress, carries himself like a man who is going somewhere.
Right there in bold is where it ended for him. She got a new job which stirs all those emotions of excitement, which if have been dormant for too long because you are a rutaholic gets amplified. If a woman moves ahead they are more susceptible to advances from men as it's out with the old in with the new mentality and it's the best time to strike from a guy’s point of view. The BF is simply put into the old life file as someone new and exciting comes along.
I don't give a fluck what the waiter guy makes, whether what she did was right or wrong- just that this is why the majority of breakups happen and guys are often clueless as to what happened.
This
he confronts her and he is crying about how you could do this to me i thought you loved me. she doesn't even blink and tells him she doesn't want to date him anymore and tells him that she will have her stuff out of his place by the end of the week.
Hits guys hard and they wonder why the chick isn't even shedding a tear. Mainly because it was over as soon as she hit her new lifestyle and left you behind.
As soon as something breaks the routine anyone's relationship can go through that danger period. It's something you should be aware of whenever your partner makes a lifestyle shift. On the flip side it's the best time to strike at that good looking taken girl who has just taking up a class in whatever as imo your chances are double in the first few weeks. Breaking routine and making her feel like she is moving forward is an easy way to the lay.