BB, you are focusing on the guy's restaurant job and ignoring the other variables. He sounds like his job was the least of his issues, if it was an issue at all. He sounds way too beta overall, especially in his reaction to her indiscretions. The man's game was unsound and she knew it.
You could have made the same argument that he wasn't updating his haircut or learning a new language and that's why she got bored. He could have pushed to purchase the restaurant and been a big shot, but without solid game he still loses her.
This has nothing to do with her behavior and whether it's right or wrong. That's a separate argument. Save for the fact that with any semblance of game he would let the bytch walk.
a man can lose a woman for a lot of reasons. But how can I say this, ignoring what' sright in front of you doesn't make it any less true.
something else you guys have to consider, you are going off a long post. I am going off 4 years of seeing them interact. not ambitious is about as nice I can put it without being disrespectful.
was the guy a total DJ? no, but he wasn't a total BETA /AFC either. he was a pretty normal dude.
Look... and I believe this is where i am different from most people not just guys. I look at pepole and i don't see evil or bad or good. I see motivations. a person will always do what's in their best interest, male or female and then turn around and use whatever the fvck they have to do to justify that behavior later. I can sit here and call her a slut but let my wife gain 40 pounds and not bust her ass to get it off, see ya. and wouldn't blink in doing it either. is it shallow? fvck yes, and i don't give a **** it's my life.
There is no honor in falling on the sword. I mean im' not saying she was the perfect girlfriend or anything but i mean.. **** i have a very nice house. 4 bedrooms 2 and a half baths in a very upscale part of Monrovia. i drive a nice car, my wife drives a nice car. we have friends and most of them do pretty well for themselves. we go over our friends house who has a ground installed swimming pool in the back yard in a picturesque house and throws BBq's as much as we do. Another couple that we hang out with goes to vegas just about every other month, slots / cards isn't my thing nor my wife's but it's theirs and they go and have a lot of fun. most of our friends do **** all the time, maybe not with us but they do **** al the time. go out of town. we went to the derby this year and it was a group of 12 of us total. kicked it hard. **** even the fat single mother that my wife hangs out with every once in a while does okay for herself.
and 4 years ago... they were the cute couple who just got to smooch off us lol. that's probably my wife's best friend which is why she is staying here. aren't they cute look at them. but 4 years of watching your friends kick it and have fun and go to BBQ's and you always showing up and eating and playing yet never contributing tot he group yourself beucase you can't, never going anywhere with us because you can't afford to, it gets fvcking old.
I do not read rollo's blog every day but i do read it. a few months ago he had a pretty heated article on his site.. guys will do anything, use any justification possible, to not use their income or their ambition as apart of the package but it is. rather you want to believe it or not, rather it sucks or not, doesn't make it any less true.
every one looks at me now and says oh bb you never have to worry about **** like that or you wouldn't' know what that is like, man i sat there for 3 years watching the girl of my dreams get rammed int he ass by a dude that didn't look anywhere near as good as I do or wasn't as ambitious as i was beucase his dad was loaded, don't tell me i don't know what it's like. but i did something about it.
I mean, guys you have to do some **** too lol. you just can't remain static and expect to keep women who other men want. If i got lazy and stopped being who i was my wife probably would leave me and i wouldn't blame her she could do better. doesn't mean i have to like it but just because i don't like it doesnt' mean it wouldn't happen.
this type of topic always sparks a debate beucase it hits a nerve to guys who don't' have money. and i'm not one to tell anyone else how to live. But you cannot make a woman share a man's, or for that matter a man share a woman's outlook on life.. on anything. not just money. religion, exercise habits. WTF does she owe him they aren't married if he wants to live his beach bum lifestyle he's more than free to do it but why is she required to stick it out with him? she wants more. there is nothing wrong with that no less than there is nothing wrong them him not wanting to be a billionare. **** she is 26 years old, half of us have kid's, i'm pretty sure she wouldn't mind settling down and having a family soon and ****, his act is not together for that.
what i do not understand is how guys do not see that telling a womans that she must stick it out with a guy who isn't the most ambitious guy on earth, is any different from a woman telling a man that he has tos tick it out with a woman who has stopped putting out. you are saying there is more to a relationship than money that's shallow she's saying there is more to a relationship than sex that's shallow. both of you are fvckign just as bad as the other. and you guys using stupid dramatized examples "so if i'm not a billionare or run a company" just stop. ****. none of my friends are milllionares..actually one is, but the rest aren't and most of them have very cute/good looking women. no one is sayign y8ou have to start the next facebook to get laid in America. But the type of lifestyle that you can provide is a factor to pretty much all women, just like the amount of sex that a woman gives me is a factor to a relationship. the avg woman just wants a man with a house, a decent car and enough liesure money to do **** every once in a while. that really isn't asking all that much.
I do not think he did anything "wrong". I don't think either is at fault. I look at it like me and my 2 old best friends.. after knowing them since i was 8 by the time i was 22 we just went separate ways. what interested me didn't interest them. we were into different things, i hung with a different crowd then they did. doesn't mean either of us did anything wrong. these 2 they just went different ways. she wanted someone who was more ambitious long term and had a more traditional / stable life style than he had, and he doesn't want that. but this is a forum about how to get women, not about the rightness and wrongness of america and when it comes to getting women you need to have some type of ambition/career if you want to get and keep the good ones.
lol i knew he was in trouble at our wedding last year (she was a bridesmaid). something seemed to click in her head at that time i could tell by the comments she was making
with that said, after thinking about it i will tell her that she can't bring him around here for 1 month. i will give the dude 1 month to get his emotions and **** in check.a fter that he's on his own.