"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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it would be Ryan Goslings character in ‘Crazy, Stupid, Love’. The character he portrays (Jacob) is exactly what men are striving and honing their skills to become like here.

Good movie too.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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it would be Ryan Goslings character in ‘Crazy, Stupid, Love’. The character he portrays (Jacob) is exactly what men are striving and honing their skills to become like here.
SPOILERS AHEAD!

He does seem to be a kind of cardboard cutout of a PUA type. But don't forget he falls in love with Emma Stone in the movie (well, I'm not going to blame him, she's kind of hot, and I'm partial to redheads). But Steve Carrell doesn't want him near his daughter, since he knows what kind of guy he is.

That movie starts out all right, but Steve Carrell's beta speech at the end is downright embarrassing. I don't remember exactly what he said (at his son's graduation), but IIRC he basically advocates sacrificing all self respect to chase your one true love, no matter how many times she rejects you.

It's kind of funny the older girl he has a crush on sends him some explicit pics though.
 

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SPOILERS AHEAD!

He does seem to be a kind of cardboard cutout of a PUA type. But don't forget he falls in love with Emma Stone in the movie (well, I'm not going to blame him, she's kind of hot, and I'm partial to redheads). But Steve Carrell doesn't want him near his daughter, since he knows what kind of guy he is.

That movie starts out all right, but Steve Carrell's beta speech at the end is downright embarrassing. I don't remember exactly what he said (at his son's graduation), but IIRC he basically advocates sacrificing all self respect to chase your one true love, no matter how many times she rejects you.

It's kind of funny the older girl he has a crush on sends him some explicit pics though.
Yes, Steve Carroll’s character learns self respect and becomes the man he wants to be, then he reverts back to his horribly embarrassing ways to a woman who cheated on him. With the walk away of love conquers all.... and soul mate crap.
And the speech at the end is so brutal. There are a couple of other parts too; such as his ex figuring out he’s slept with the teacher during the parent teacher interviews. When in reality he could have used that to his advantage as she felt competition anxiety and really just wanted him back. But then he went full wimp mode and begged for her forgiveness in front of everyone humiliating himself in that process! Even though she cheated on him and they weren’t together?!!

Plus every other guy aside from goslings character is full blown beta. The movie advocates that it is bad to be a man and do what you like, and that the woman holds the reigns essentially. Mostly puke inducing overall; but women and blue pills will be very rapturous towards it.

Even though gosling hitches with Emma in the end, he is still choosing her. At some point every alpha, game savvy guy will settle with one who he deems worthy. And he deemed her worthy.
Also note: this character was one which played heavily in to goslings now ‘sexy man’ persona the general public revers him as.
 

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You guys discussing abt love in those movies ?

That's disgusting.

Only women chit chats abt that shiet....
 

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Yes, Steve Carroll’s character learns self respect and becomes the man he wants to be, then he reverts back to his horribly embarrassing ways to a woman who cheated on him. With the walk away of love conquers all.... and soul mate crap.
And the speech at the end is so brutal. There are a couple of other parts too; such as his ex figuring out he’s slept with the teacher during the parent teacher interviews. When in reality he could have used that to his advantage as she felt competition anxiety and really just wanted him back. But then he went full wimp mode and begged for her forgiveness in front of everyone humiliating himself in that process! Even though she cheated on him and they weren’t together?!!

Plus every other guy aside from goslings character is full blown beta. The movie advocates that it is bad to be a man and do what you like, and that the woman holds the reigns essentially. Mostly puke inducing overall; but women and blue pills will be very rapturous towards it.

Even though gosling hitches with Emma in the end, he is still choosing her. At some point every alpha, game savvy guy will settle with one who he deems worthy. And he deemed her worthy.
Also note: this character was one which played heavily in to goslings now ‘sexy man’ persona the general public revers him as.
Do it sets the expectation for what "true love" is supposed to be? Sick.
 

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First half of Crazy, Stupid, Love was fantastic. Second half was pretty bad but yeah Ryan Gosling is a pretty good example.

For me personally, it's Don Draper if you ignore the fact that he's playing a character within that character.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hank Moody, Californication.

That reminds me I need to complete that series.
 

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Don Draper and Hank Moody both cheated and had drinking problems. Yes they were masculine in their energy and went for what they wanted; however that came with its own price(s), and they had too many vices/personal issues.
Also, Don Draper was a facade. A makebelief character he created, much like his own contrivances within the firm.

If one created an alter ego within their own dating life; I bet you could do many things you may deem currently difficult, as it’s a disassociation of self in a way; a mask so to speak. Alter egos can be a powerful tool. (There’s examples of a few athletes using sunglasses, headbands, bandanas, or arm bands, etc, which creates an alter ego).

I once pretended to be Australian for three weeks for fun when I was 22. It was a very interesting experiment. Because it brought out a different part of my personality and if I was rejected in any form, it wasn’t me as flowtheory being rejected, but the Australian being rejected. So in a way, I - my true self - was protected and in turn my identified self was left intact and unharmed. I still learned from that rejection, just without the hurricane winds which could sweep away some form of my internal well-being.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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There you have it. The face of pickup wears eyeliner.
 

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Hank Moody, Californication.
I've never watched that series, but had heared it mentioned several times.......so I watched a couple of clips...
it's a bit convoluted no?

I mean granted it's a show and the writers will make him out to be whatever way they want.......but walking into a church
and getting head off a nun......or walking into a porche dealership and telling the woman to go away and she ends up stroking him....

....I haven't seen it all....but seems a little far fethced
 

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I've never watched that series, but had heared it mentioned several times.......so I watched a couple of clips...
it's a bit convoluted no?

I mean granted it's a show and the writers will make him out to be whatever way they want.......but walking into a church
and getting head off a nun......or walking into a porche dealership and telling the woman to go away and she ends up stroking him....

....I haven't seen it all....but seems a little far fethced
Lol sounds awesome even if unrealistic. Now I have to check it out.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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