"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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it would be Ryan Goslings character in ‘Crazy, Stupid, Love’. The character he portrays (Jacob) is exactly what men are striving and honing their skills to become like here.

Good movie too.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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it would be Ryan Goslings character in ‘Crazy, Stupid, Love’. The character he portrays (Jacob) is exactly what men are striving and honing their skills to become like here.
SPOILERS AHEAD!

He does seem to be a kind of cardboard cutout of a PUA type. But don't forget he falls in love with Emma Stone in the movie (well, I'm not going to blame him, she's kind of hot, and I'm partial to redheads). But Steve Carrell doesn't want him near his daughter, since he knows what kind of guy he is.

That movie starts out all right, but Steve Carrell's beta speech at the end is downright embarrassing. I don't remember exactly what he said (at his son's graduation), but IIRC he basically advocates sacrificing all self respect to chase your one true love, no matter how many times she rejects you.

It's kind of funny the older girl he has a crush on sends him some explicit pics though.
 

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SPOILERS AHEAD!

He does seem to be a kind of cardboard cutout of a PUA type. But don't forget he falls in love with Emma Stone in the movie (well, I'm not going to blame him, she's kind of hot, and I'm partial to redheads). But Steve Carrell doesn't want him near his daughter, since he knows what kind of guy he is.

That movie starts out all right, but Steve Carrell's beta speech at the end is downright embarrassing. I don't remember exactly what he said (at his son's graduation), but IIRC he basically advocates sacrificing all self respect to chase your one true love, no matter how many times she rejects you.

It's kind of funny the older girl he has a crush on sends him some explicit pics though.
Yes, Steve Carroll’s character learns self respect and becomes the man he wants to be, then he reverts back to his horribly embarrassing ways to a woman who cheated on him. With the walk away of love conquers all.... and soul mate crap.
And the speech at the end is so brutal. There are a couple of other parts too; such as his ex figuring out he’s slept with the teacher during the parent teacher interviews. When in reality he could have used that to his advantage as she felt competition anxiety and really just wanted him back. But then he went full wimp mode and begged for her forgiveness in front of everyone humiliating himself in that process! Even though she cheated on him and they weren’t together?!!

Plus every other guy aside from goslings character is full blown beta. The movie advocates that it is bad to be a man and do what you like, and that the woman holds the reigns essentially. Mostly puke inducing overall; but women and blue pills will be very rapturous towards it.

Even though gosling hitches with Emma in the end, he is still choosing her. At some point every alpha, game savvy guy will settle with one who he deems worthy. And he deemed her worthy.
Also note: this character was one which played heavily in to goslings now ‘sexy man’ persona the general public revers him as.
 

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You guys discussing abt love in those movies ?

That's disgusting.

Only women chit chats abt that shiet....
 

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Yes, Steve Carroll’s character learns self respect and becomes the man he wants to be, then he reverts back to his horribly embarrassing ways to a woman who cheated on him. With the walk away of love conquers all.... and soul mate crap.
And the speech at the end is so brutal. There are a couple of other parts too; such as his ex figuring out he’s slept with the teacher during the parent teacher interviews. When in reality he could have used that to his advantage as she felt competition anxiety and really just wanted him back. But then he went full wimp mode and begged for her forgiveness in front of everyone humiliating himself in that process! Even though she cheated on him and they weren’t together?!!

Plus every other guy aside from goslings character is full blown beta. The movie advocates that it is bad to be a man and do what you like, and that the woman holds the reigns essentially. Mostly puke inducing overall; but women and blue pills will be very rapturous towards it.

Even though gosling hitches with Emma in the end, he is still choosing her. At some point every alpha, game savvy guy will settle with one who he deems worthy. And he deemed her worthy.
Also note: this character was one which played heavily in to goslings now ‘sexy man’ persona the general public revers him as.
Do it sets the expectation for what "true love" is supposed to be? Sick.
 

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First half of Crazy, Stupid, Love was fantastic. Second half was pretty bad but yeah Ryan Gosling is a pretty good example.

For me personally, it's Don Draper if you ignore the fact that he's playing a character within that character.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hank Moody, Californication.

That reminds me I need to complete that series.
 

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Don Draper and Hank Moody both cheated and had drinking problems. Yes they were masculine in their energy and went for what they wanted; however that came with its own price(s), and they had too many vices/personal issues.
Also, Don Draper was a facade. A makebelief character he created, much like his own contrivances within the firm.

If one created an alter ego within their own dating life; I bet you could do many things you may deem currently difficult, as it’s a disassociation of self in a way; a mask so to speak. Alter egos can be a powerful tool. (There’s examples of a few athletes using sunglasses, headbands, bandanas, or arm bands, etc, which creates an alter ego).

I once pretended to be Australian for three weeks for fun when I was 22. It was a very interesting experiment. Because it brought out a different part of my personality and if I was rejected in any form, it wasn’t me as flowtheory being rejected, but the Australian being rejected. So in a way, I - my true self - was protected and in turn my identified self was left intact and unharmed. I still learned from that rejection, just without the hurricane winds which could sweep away some form of my internal well-being.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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There you have it. The face of pickup wears eyeliner.
 

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Hank Moody, Californication.
I've never watched that series, but had heared it mentioned several times.......so I watched a couple of clips...
it's a bit convoluted no?

I mean granted it's a show and the writers will make him out to be whatever way they want.......but walking into a church
and getting head off a nun......or walking into a porche dealership and telling the woman to go away and she ends up stroking him....

....I haven't seen it all....but seems a little far fethced
 

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I've never watched that series, but had heared it mentioned several times.......so I watched a couple of clips...
it's a bit convoluted no?

I mean granted it's a show and the writers will make him out to be whatever way they want.......but walking into a church
and getting head off a nun......or walking into a porche dealership and telling the woman to go away and she ends up stroking him....

....I haven't seen it all....but seems a little far fethced
Lol sounds awesome even if unrealistic. Now I have to check it out.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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