"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If she's feeling glum
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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If you give her solutions to solve her problems it'll just degenerate into a huge fight and you'll be called out on any problems you may have lol.
Unless the chick is unusually mature and has a history of wanting real advice in her bad times what I said is usually what will happen.
So you are doing things well now!
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In their moment of weakness I just hug them and say that this feeling is only momentary - they usually say, "Thanks for being here." - then I start kissing them on the neck and rub my hands up and down their back and buttocks, simultaneously!! Then they start freaking and scream, "WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING?' I say, "I'm comforting you.". They run away while yelling, "You're a freaking perv!!! I guess I'm not a good comforter.cNfny said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.