"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If she says it too soon

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How should you respond to an "I love you" after you've only been goin out for a few weeks?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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say i love cake

ps this topic was done last week
 
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Call her on it.

You can't have too many girlfriends.

Close on her now, ask her to be your girl.

If she says no then she was only testing you.

And for that my friend, you next her!

But don't do it rudely.

In fact do it with deception.

Play hurt!

Tell her, "I can't take this, you are only toying with my heart,
I have to go home and cry." [fake a tear if possible]

then wait for her to call you.
She will.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When she says "I love you" say "I know."

But beyond this, I need help. How do you "ask her to be your girlfriend." One of my friends got one recently, and others have had them but I don't trust any of them enough to ask. It's not that I'm afraid to ask, I just don't know how.
 
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Originally posted by Maeisgood
When she says "I love you" say "I know."
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poser

you stole this from me who stole it from Han solo

shame on you
 
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Originally posted by Maeisgood
When she says "I love you" say "I know."

But beyond this, I need help. How do you "ask her to be your girlfriend." One of my friends got one recently, and others have had them but I don't trust any of them enough to ask. It's not that I'm afraid to ask, I just don't know how.
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What do you say when she gets emotional and starts saying **** like.. Real nice... but really dont you love me too??
 
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One time a girl kept telling me "i love you" in texts.
Everytime i just replied me too- this way she doesnt know what you mean for sure(does he love me or love himself?)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by Maeisgood
When she says "I love you" say "I know."

But beyond this, I need help. How do you "ask her to be your girlfriend." One of my friends got one recently, and others have had them but I don't trust any of them enough to ask. It's not that I'm afraid to ask, I just don't know how.
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Next time you see her go up to her and say:

"Did you really mean it when you said I love you the other day?"

then say

"Do you love me enough to be my B - A - B - Y?"

if she didn't understand that then simply say

"Do you love me enough to be my girl, because roxanne, roxanne.....I wanna be yo man"
 
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Going out with her is her being your girlfriend so get that straight guys... Atleast thats how it is nowadays around every school I've been too.

I dont know how it was back in the old ages with you old farts
 
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Since somebody already mentioned song lyrics, here is a song that talks about your situation.
Band: Extreme, Song: More than words

Your GF: I love you
You the DJ: More than words is all I ever needed you to show, Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me
Cos I'ddd already knowwwwwwww"

You can use several combinations from the lyrics of this song. Lines 1 to 5 are good also ;)

MORE THAN WORDS LYRICS
Saying I love you
Is not the words I want to hear from you
It's not that I want you
Not to say, but if you only knew
How easy it would be to show me how you feel
More than words is all you have to do to make it real
Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me
Cos I'd already know
What would you do if my heart was torn in two
More than words to show you feel
That your love for me is real
What would you say if I took those words away
Then you couldn't make things new
Just by saying I love you
More than words
Now I've tried to talk to you and make you understand
All you have to do is close your eyes
And just reach out your hands and touch me
Hold me close don't ever let me go
More than words is all I ever needed you to show
Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me
Cos I'd already know
What would you do if my heart was torn in two
More than words to show you feel
That your love for me is real
What would you say if I took those words away
Then you couldn't make things new
Just by saying I love you
More than words
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SEARCH GOD DAMMIT
 
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