i have one chick that I date for 4 months,we meet maybe once a month and we dont text each other. i didnt have sex yet so maybe its lost case
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If she never texts you is she not interested?
- Thread starter SamTheHobit
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
depends on the context of the situation
1. does she reply quickly/energetically/with multiple messages/with long messages? those are all signs of high interest whereas if she does none of that that's a sign of no interest
2. how long are you waiting? if it's been less than 24 hours she could have a busy day, if its been less than 3 days she could have nothing to say right now (unless she goes 3 days without texting you really often) but if it's a week+ or a month that's either absolutely 0 interest or a girl who's a princess(expects you to come to her like a dog)/coward(too shy to hit you up ever because of insane basket case rationalizations), there's the rare ocassion where she ended up in prison or something though.
3. what type of girl is she? plenty of shy or insecure girls or girls with poor social skills can't hold a convo and don't always start one, on the other hand if she's an outgoing confident woman then the only reason she would possibly not text you ever is if she's too busy with other guys
ultimately the way to figure it out is simple: if things are going well otherwise then it's not a big deal, swallow your pride. if things are going downhill or there's other signs of low/no interest then make your escape plan and try to fix things
1. does she reply quickly/energetically/with multiple messages/with long messages? those are all signs of high interest whereas if she does none of that that's a sign of no interest
2. how long are you waiting? if it's been less than 24 hours she could have a busy day, if its been less than 3 days she could have nothing to say right now (unless she goes 3 days without texting you really often) but if it's a week+ or a month that's either absolutely 0 interest or a girl who's a princess(expects you to come to her like a dog)/coward(too shy to hit you up ever because of insane basket case rationalizations), there's the rare ocassion where she ended up in prison or something though.
3. what type of girl is she? plenty of shy or insecure girls or girls with poor social skills can't hold a convo and don't always start one, on the other hand if she's an outgoing confident woman then the only reason she would possibly not text you ever is if she's too busy with other guys
ultimately the way to figure it out is simple: if things are going well otherwise then it's not a big deal, swallow your pride. if things are going downhill or there's other signs of low/no interest then make your escape plan and try to fix things
Dingo
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Or they are ****ing busy....
I don't know what age group your talking about but once you're in the corporate world you got to hustle... I have women that I might as well forget hearing from until they are done for the day... then convoys can happen... Same with me... I turn off my personal phone once I'm busting my ass.
I don't know what age group your talking about but once you're in the corporate world you got to hustle... I have women that I might as well forget hearing from until they are done for the day... then convoys can happen... Same with me... I turn off my personal phone once I'm busting my ass.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
most people aren't actually busy though, especially not for anything they deem important
though I'd definitely say not to date anyone who's particularly busy, that doesn't sound fun
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Simply put, yes. Females are pretty much inseparable from their phones now, so yeah, she's getting your messages, and no, she doesn't care to write you back. Next her or be her court jester.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Stallionstud
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This is where I’m at, just moved to a state I know nobody within. What’s more it’s all small townish so a lot of this “have a million options type of game” isn’t practical for me at all even though I go out 4 times a week to meet people
MatureDJ
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I agree. I'm at the point at which if I get any indication of low-interest, I make sure that she has my phone number (e.g., from our last call, or a text message), and then I move on until she decides to contact me. Of course when the gal does contact me, she asks me what I didn't try to contact her again ("uh, I guess it slipped my mind").
I have an off again on again FWB that I see and we maybe text 2 times a month if that but she is always down to fvck me so sometimes the frequency of the texts don't ALWAYS reveal their interest level...sometimes these b!tches hide their IL.