i have one chick that I date for 4 months,we meet maybe once a month and we dont text each other. i didnt have sex yet so maybe its lost case
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
If she never texts you is she not interested?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
devilkingx2
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depends on the context of the situation
1. does she reply quickly/energetically/with multiple messages/with long messages? those are all signs of high interest whereas if she does none of that that's a sign of no interest
2. how long are you waiting? if it's been less than 24 hours she could have a busy day, if its been less than 3 days she could have nothing to say right now (unless she goes 3 days without texting you really often) but if it's a week+ or a month that's either absolutely 0 interest or a girl who's a princess(expects you to come to her like a dog)/coward(too shy to hit you up ever because of insane basket case rationalizations), there's the rare ocassion where she ended up in prison or something though.
3. what type of girl is she? plenty of shy or insecure girls or girls with poor social skills can't hold a convo and don't always start one, on the other hand if she's an outgoing confident woman then the only reason she would possibly not text you ever is if she's too busy with other guys
ultimately the way to figure it out is simple: if things are going well otherwise then it's not a big deal, swallow your pride. if things are going downhill or there's other signs of low/no interest then make your escape plan and try to fix things
1. does she reply quickly/energetically/with multiple messages/with long messages? those are all signs of high interest whereas if she does none of that that's a sign of no interest
2. how long are you waiting? if it's been less than 24 hours she could have a busy day, if its been less than 3 days she could have nothing to say right now (unless she goes 3 days without texting you really often) but if it's a week+ or a month that's either absolutely 0 interest or a girl who's a princess(expects you to come to her like a dog)/coward(too shy to hit you up ever because of insane basket case rationalizations), there's the rare ocassion where she ended up in prison or something though.
3. what type of girl is she? plenty of shy or insecure girls or girls with poor social skills can't hold a convo and don't always start one, on the other hand if she's an outgoing confident woman then the only reason she would possibly not text you ever is if she's too busy with other guys
ultimately the way to figure it out is simple: if things are going well otherwise then it's not a big deal, swallow your pride. if things are going downhill or there's other signs of low/no interest then make your escape plan and try to fix things
Dingo
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Or they are ****ing busy....
I don't know what age group your talking about but once you're in the corporate world you got to hustle... I have women that I might as well forget hearing from until they are done for the day... then convoys can happen... Same with me... I turn off my personal phone once I'm busting my ass.
I don't know what age group your talking about but once you're in the corporate world you got to hustle... I have women that I might as well forget hearing from until they are done for the day... then convoys can happen... Same with me... I turn off my personal phone once I'm busting my ass.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
most people aren't actually busy though, especially not for anything they deem important
though I'd definitely say not to date anyone who's particularly busy, that doesn't sound fun
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Simply put, yes. Females are pretty much inseparable from their phones now, so yeah, she's getting your messages, and no, she doesn't care to write you back. Next her or be her court jester.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Stallionstud
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This is where I’m at, just moved to a state I know nobody within. What’s more it’s all small townish so a lot of this “have a million options type of game” isn’t practical for me at all even though I go out 4 times a week to meet people
MatureDJ
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I agree. I'm at the point at which if I get any indication of low-interest, I make sure that she has my phone number (e.g., from our last call, or a text message), and then I move on until she decides to contact me. Of course when the gal does contact me, she asks me what I didn't try to contact her again ("uh, I guess it slipped my mind").
I have an off again on again FWB that I see and we maybe text 2 times a month if that but she is always down to fvck me so sometimes the frequency of the texts don't ALWAYS reveal their interest level...sometimes these b!tches hide their IL.