"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If she doen't do something small that she said she would do....

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Do you bring it up or act like you didn't notice.

Like, if they say they will call you back the same night and they don't. When you go out the next day do you mention it or just act like you didn't notice? I ask because it seems to be two sides to it. Like, if you mention it it could show that you were waiting for her call, which comes off as desperate. But if you don't mention it it could come off as letting her walk all over you....

BTW, we've been dating for bout 5 weeks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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well we're not going to lie to the poor girl...

meaning u were waiting for the call yes?
so if u were i guess you can tell her but dude it's not what you say it's HOW you say it!

If u want it to sound desperate it will... same goes for thought as well... people can pick up on body language and voice tone...

My advice is... shut up and stop thinking about it too much! You're waht i used to do a lot of the time. ATM i don't care if she calls or wateva, all i know is that i always have some sort of task (uni homework, sleep, eating wateva) to do...

so quit thinking about it or else it'll be the death of you... just wait till you get in deeper man.... these little things are gonna drive you up the wall :rolleyes: :D
 

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Yeah, I've been deeper. It's just that we are supposed to go out today and I needed to find out when and now I have to find out last minute. She has something to do in the morning, that's why I was claling to see when she would be ready to go out.

It just annoys me when people don't contact me back and it is somethign important (to me, anyway).
 

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Originally posted by JCKey618
Yeah, I've been deeper. It's just that we are supposed to go out today and I needed to find out when and now I have to find out last minute. She has something to do in the morning, that's why I was claling to see when she would be ready to go out.

It just annoys me when people don't contact me back and it is somethign important (to me, anyway).
Is this a girl you've been seeing, or are you just starting with her?

If you've BEEN seeing her, give her a casual, "What happened to you last night?" Don't make a big deal of it, but let her know that when she said she'd call you back, you expected a call back.

If this is like, a first date, she may be setting you up for a stand-up or a last-minute change-of-plans. :(

If that's the case, I wouldn't tolerate that bullsh!t.

Either way, you shouldn't be sitting by the phone waiting for girls to call. That's why you have a cellphone.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by JCKey618
Do you bring it up or act like you didn't notice.

Like, if they say they will call you back the same night and they don't. When you go out the next day do you mention it or just act like you didn't notice? I ask because it seems to be two sides to it. Like, if you mention it it could show that you were waiting for her call, which comes off as desperate. But if you don't mention it it could come off as letting her walk all over you....

BTW, we've been dating for bout 5 weeks.

Well first off I want say that you did the right thing by coming here and asking your fellow brethren for help.

My advice: Don't sweat it-A keyword in your post is the word-DATING- as in NOT TO BE TAKEN TOO SERIOUSLY! If you were in a relationship then that would be different, but since your dating, you therefore have no solid commitment to the other-until it forms into a relationship its all sh@ts and giggles so don''t worry about it.

But if its really bothering you call her out on it! Don't let it fly!

-One-
 
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