"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you bring it up or act like you didn't notice.

Like, if they say they will call you back the same night and they don't. When you go out the next day do you mention it or just act like you didn't notice? I ask because it seems to be two sides to it. Like, if you mention it it could show that you were waiting for her call, which comes off as desperate. But if you don't mention it it could come off as letting her walk all over you....

BTW, we've been dating for bout 5 weeks.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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well we're not going to lie to the poor girl...

meaning u were waiting for the call yes?
so if u were i guess you can tell her but dude it's not what you say it's HOW you say it!

If u want it to sound desperate it will... same goes for thought as well... people can pick up on body language and voice tone...

My advice is... shut up and stop thinking about it too much! You're waht i used to do a lot of the time. ATM i don't care if she calls or wateva, all i know is that i always have some sort of task (uni homework, sleep, eating wateva) to do...

so quit thinking about it or else it'll be the death of you... just wait till you get in deeper man.... these little things are gonna drive you up the wall :rolleyes: :D
 

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Yeah, I've been deeper. It's just that we are supposed to go out today and I needed to find out when and now I have to find out last minute. She has something to do in the morning, that's why I was claling to see when she would be ready to go out.

It just annoys me when people don't contact me back and it is somethign important (to me, anyway).
 

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Originally posted by JCKey618
Yeah, I've been deeper. It's just that we are supposed to go out today and I needed to find out when and now I have to find out last minute. She has something to do in the morning, that's why I was claling to see when she would be ready to go out.

It just annoys me when people don't contact me back and it is somethign important (to me, anyway).
Is this a girl you've been seeing, or are you just starting with her?

If you've BEEN seeing her, give her a casual, "What happened to you last night?" Don't make a big deal of it, but let her know that when she said she'd call you back, you expected a call back.

If this is like, a first date, she may be setting you up for a stand-up or a last-minute change-of-plans. :(

If that's the case, I wouldn't tolerate that bullsh!t.

Either way, you shouldn't be sitting by the phone waiting for girls to call. That's why you have a cellphone.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by JCKey618
Do you bring it up or act like you didn't notice.

Like, if they say they will call you back the same night and they don't. When you go out the next day do you mention it or just act like you didn't notice? I ask because it seems to be two sides to it. Like, if you mention it it could show that you were waiting for her call, which comes off as desperate. But if you don't mention it it could come off as letting her walk all over you....

BTW, we've been dating for bout 5 weeks.

Well first off I want say that you did the right thing by coming here and asking your fellow brethren for help.

My advice: Don't sweat it-A keyword in your post is the word-DATING- as in NOT TO BE TAKEN TOO SERIOUSLY! If you were in a relationship then that would be different, but since your dating, you therefore have no solid commitment to the other-until it forms into a relationship its all sh@ts and giggles so don''t worry about it.

But if its really bothering you call her out on it! Don't let it fly!

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