"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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so this shy mexican chica i've been seeing has been dropping hints... later, I go to approach her and she clams up, (she's super shy) could be a stessed day at work. Didn't hang around long enough to know for sure.

Anyway, got to thinking... if something feels a bit off, (whether it's me or her or both) it's best to leave it for another day. My mojo wasn't at top level anyway (long day) and I had been thinking about her too much.

Any opinions???
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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so this shy mexican chica i've been seeing has been dropping hints... later, I go to approach her and she clams up, (she's super shy) could be a stessed day at work. Didn't hang around long enough to know for sure.

Anyway, got to thinking... if something feels a bit off, (whether it's me or her or both) it's best to leave it for another day. My mojo wasn't at top level anyway (long day) and I had been thinking about her too much.

Any opinions???
Follow standard procedure. The more you think about it, the higher the chance to make a mistake. Focus somewhere else and you will be fine.
And spin more plates.
 

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Take a break and see if she pursues you

If you have been thinking a lot about her then it's time to take a break. Remain objective and outcome independent.
 

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so this shy mexican chica i've been seeing has been dropping hints... later, I go to approach her and she clams up, (she's super shy) could be a stessed day at work. Didn't hang around long enough to know for sure.

Anyway, got to thinking... if something feels a bit off, (whether it's me or her or both) it's best to leave it for another day. My mojo wasn't at top level anyway (long day) and I had been thinking about her too much.

Any opinions???
Assume attraction.

The minute you start thinking "something feels a bit off" that's the vibe that comes off you and that's the vibe she picks up on....

In other words your poor subcommunications start pouring out of you like olive oil ......

Stop rationlising her behaviour (could be stressed at work). In fact, if she is "shy" it's the perfect scenario to apply the FATHER DAUGHTER FRAME.....

If she's claming up when your closing in......could be just some LMR.......back off and move in again after a bit.....

Hesitation and doubt are going to kill you.

Your post isn't that clear............this mexican chica that I've been seeing (I assume you've being banging or at least going out with when you say that....so I assume there is interest) has been dropping hints.....(about what?)
 

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Take a break and see if she pursues you

If you have been thinking a lot about her then it's time to take a break. Remain objective and outcome independent.
the thinking bit is the problem, working on fixing it!!!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Assume attraction.

The minute you start thinking "something feels a bit off" that's the vibe that comes off you and that's the vibe she picks up on....

In other words your poor subcommunications start pouring out of you like olive oil ......

Stop rationlising her behaviour (could be stressed at work). In fact, if she is "shy" it's the perfect scenario to apply the FATHER DAUGHTER FRAME.....

If she's claming up when your closing in......could be just some LMR.......back off and move in again after a bit.....

Hesitation and doubt are going to kill you.

Your post isn't that clear............this mexican chica that I've been seeing (I assume you've being banging or at least going out with when you say that....so I assume there is interest) has been dropping hints.....(about what?)
Going to lay low for now, thanks!!!
 

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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