"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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if in doubt... go with the flow

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so this shy mexican chica i've been seeing has been dropping hints... later, I go to approach her and she clams up, (she's super shy) could be a stessed day at work. Didn't hang around long enough to know for sure.

Anyway, got to thinking... if something feels a bit off, (whether it's me or her or both) it's best to leave it for another day. My mojo wasn't at top level anyway (long day) and I had been thinking about her too much.

Any opinions???
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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so this shy mexican chica i've been seeing has been dropping hints... later, I go to approach her and she clams up, (she's super shy) could be a stessed day at work. Didn't hang around long enough to know for sure.

Anyway, got to thinking... if something feels a bit off, (whether it's me or her or both) it's best to leave it for another day. My mojo wasn't at top level anyway (long day) and I had been thinking about her too much.

Any opinions???
Follow standard procedure. The more you think about it, the higher the chance to make a mistake. Focus somewhere else and you will be fine.
And spin more plates.
 

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Take a break and see if she pursues you

If you have been thinking a lot about her then it's time to take a break. Remain objective and outcome independent.
 

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so this shy mexican chica i've been seeing has been dropping hints... later, I go to approach her and she clams up, (she's super shy) could be a stessed day at work. Didn't hang around long enough to know for sure.

Anyway, got to thinking... if something feels a bit off, (whether it's me or her or both) it's best to leave it for another day. My mojo wasn't at top level anyway (long day) and I had been thinking about her too much.

Any opinions???
Assume attraction.

The minute you start thinking "something feels a bit off" that's the vibe that comes off you and that's the vibe she picks up on....

In other words your poor subcommunications start pouring out of you like olive oil ......

Stop rationlising her behaviour (could be stressed at work). In fact, if she is "shy" it's the perfect scenario to apply the FATHER DAUGHTER FRAME.....

If she's claming up when your closing in......could be just some LMR.......back off and move in again after a bit.....

Hesitation and doubt are going to kill you.

Your post isn't that clear............this mexican chica that I've been seeing (I assume you've being banging or at least going out with when you say that....so I assume there is interest) has been dropping hints.....(about what?)
 

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Take a break and see if she pursues you

If you have been thinking a lot about her then it's time to take a break. Remain objective and outcome independent.
the thinking bit is the problem, working on fixing it!!!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Assume attraction.

The minute you start thinking "something feels a bit off" that's the vibe that comes off you and that's the vibe she picks up on....

In other words your poor subcommunications start pouring out of you like olive oil ......

Stop rationlising her behaviour (could be stressed at work). In fact, if she is "shy" it's the perfect scenario to apply the FATHER DAUGHTER FRAME.....

If she's claming up when your closing in......could be just some LMR.......back off and move in again after a bit.....

Hesitation and doubt are going to kill you.

Your post isn't that clear............this mexican chica that I've been seeing (I assume you've being banging or at least going out with when you say that....so I assume there is interest) has been dropping hints.....(about what?)
Going to lay low for now, thanks!!!
 

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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