"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If fat girls always check me out what does that tell me about myself?

Demystify

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It happens more or less every single day. And plus none of my friends (both the AFC and DJ ones) never seem to get checked out by fat girls. So why me?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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they like a certain type.......U may be putting out a vibe.......mustard yellow shirt, red peppers prints........anything approximating food could trigger their desire
 

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maybe they think you are too ugly to get a hot girl and would be desperate enough to sleep with them
 

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Demystify said:
It happens more or less every single day. And plus none of my friends (both the AFC and DJ ones) never seem to get checked out by fat girls. So why me?
Quit leaving the house with pizza stuck to your shirt HA!

Well all girls have the same attraction mechanism, fat girls are just more deprived so they will be more direct about their attraction. It means you're appealing to all girls, fat girls are just being upfront about it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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J Roc said:
maybe they think you are too ugly to get a hot girl and would be desperate enough to sleep with them
Lame response...

The truth is, fat girls always fall for guys that she feels she can never have. A fat girl is more direct about her attraction than say a beauty.
 

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Adma said:
Lame response...

The truth is, fat girls always fall for guys that she feels she can never have. A fat girl is more direct about her attraction than say a beauty.

Actually, most fat girls think they deserve to be with a male model. So take it as a compliment from the obese hypocrites.
 

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Demystify said:
It happens more or less every single day. And plus none of my friends (both the AFC and DJ ones) never seem to get checked out by fat girls. So why me?

Fat girls check out the same guys that cute fit girls check out... BUT fat girls will often be easier to F cause demand for them is lower (due to their obesity) so they are less picky...

Fat girls are more open and forward cause often they have to do extra work to get men to F them... Cute chicks are also checking you out but they hide it so you don't know so that if you do approach them you have no clue they like you yet and they can play the games they love soo much...

So this says that women find you attractive which is good...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I can tell you one thing for sure, fat chicks like you.

In all seriousness, it's probably a good sign that fat chicks are checking you out. If they're real obvious in doing so, like they eye fvck you when you walk in the room or they deep throat a banana while looking directly at you, then it's likely that they're coming on strongly to you because you're a good looking dude or you have a high amount of social proof. Fat chicks and unattractive girls have to be more obvious with their attraction when they are interested in a guy who is good looking or has a lot of value. If they don't show direct and obvious signs of interest, there's no way they will get approached by a guy who they perceive of being high value.

A hot chick expects a hot guy to approach her, so she'll give IOIs that are more thinly-veiled and tougher to pick up on. She'll look at him from across the room out of the corner of her eye, she'll make EC at him then look at the ground, etc.

It's natural selection at work. The guy who is legitimately of higher value is strong enough that he doesn't need strong IOIs like the ones the fat girl gives. He is confident enough to approach without them.

Fat chicks and ugly chicks are willing to really put themselves out there pretty hard, while cute girls will be obvious with their signs of interest, but they won't be too obvious. Really hot girls sometimes won't even give signs that they're interested, and when they do they will be very slight. This is why it's best to just approach and assume interest, even if you're not getting IOIs.
 

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DonGorgon said:
Fat girls check out the same guys that cute fit girls check out... BUT fat girls will often be easier to F cause demand for them is lower (due to their obesity) so they are less picky...

Fat girls are more open and forward cause often they have to do extra work to get men to F them... Cute chicks are also checking you out but they hide it so you don't know so that if you do approach them you have no clue they like you yet and they can play the games they love soo much...

So this says that women find you attractive which is good...
I like this response because its true. However, how many times have we all come across a Fat girl who thinks she deserves a HG10 (hot guy)? The Nerve of these girls sometimes is increadible.
 

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MikeYikes122 said:
I can tell you one thing for sure, fat chicks like you.

In all seriousness, it's probably a good sign that fat chicks are checking you out. If they're real obvious in doing so, like they eye fvck you when you walk in the room or they deep throat a banana while looking directly at you, then it's likely that they're coming on strongly to you because you're a good looking dude or you have a high amount of social proof. Fat chicks and unattractive girls have to be more obvious with their attraction when they are interested in a guy who is good looking or has a lot of value. If they don't show direct and obvious signs of interest, there's no way they will get approached by a guy who they perceive of being high value.

A hot chick expects a hot guy to approach her, so she'll give IOIs that are more thinly-veiled and tougher to pick up on. She'll look at him from across the room out of the corner of her eye, she'll make EC at him then look at the ground, etc.

It's natural selection at work. The guy who is legitimately of higher value is strong enough that he doesn't need strong IOIs like the ones the fat girl gives. He is confident enough to approach without them.

Fat chicks and ugly chicks are willing to really put themselves out there pretty hard, while cute girls will be obvious with their signs of interest, but they won't be too obvious. Really hot girls sometimes won't even give signs that they're interested, and when they do they will be very slight. This is why it's best to just approach and assume interest, even if you're not getting IOIs.
Mike layed it down pretty nicely with this response.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Description of how you see fat, please. There are some full-figured women that look fine.....but watch out, once they have a kid or 2 they get so big they'll need their own zip code.
 

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J Roc said:
maybe they think you are too ugly to get a hot girl and would be desperate enough to sleep with them

Total lame answer dude, all women do like good looking guys including fat chicks. Maybe it’s the level self esteem you have for your self, you might be attracting the negative.
 

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I've noticed that fat women often go for skinny guys. I got checked out by some fat girls before I started lifting 5'10 132-135 lbs. As I bulked up fat women stopped checking me out as much and the slimmer and sexy girls started showing more obvious IoIs.

If you're skinny it might be the reason.
 

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Adma said:
Lame response...

The truth is this, fat girls always fall for guys that she feels she can never have. A fat girl is more direct about her attraction than say a beauty.

Something like that. It's a classic case of getting hit on by the notties when what you want is a hottie. At some point when you get your **** together you'll start getting approached by women. What you'll notice is that most of the times they're LSE/UGs. The reason for this is now you're an attractive alpha stud and they want you. Because they are LSE/UGs they have nothing to lose so they actually approach and throw themselves at you. The HBs are attracted as well, but because they have such high self esteem and options they don't bother approaching, not to mention they still have pick of the litter and tons of guys hitting on them.

Bottom line: you're doing something right and it's time to change gears and start working on the hotties. Just don't expect them to throw themselves at you like the notties.
 
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COD said:
they like a certain type.......U may be putting out a vibe.......mustard yellow shirt, red peppers prints........anything approximating food could trigger their desire
hahahahaha... mustard yellow shirt... repped
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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