Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Quit leaving the house with pizza stuck to your shirt HA!Demystify said:It happens more or less every single day. And plus none of my friends (both the AFC and DJ ones) never seem to get checked out by fat girls. So why me?
Bingo.J Roc said:maybe they think you are too ugly to get a hot girl and would be desperate enough to sleep with them
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Lame response...J Roc said:maybe they think you are too ugly to get a hot girl and would be desperate enough to sleep with them
Adma said:Lame response...
The truth is, fat girls always fall for guys that she feels she can never have. A fat girl is more direct about her attraction than say a beauty.
Demystify said:It happens more or less every single day. And plus none of my friends (both the AFC and DJ ones) never seem to get checked out by fat girls. So why me?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I like this response because its true. However, how many times have we all come across a Fat girl who thinks she deserves a HG10 (hot guy)? The Nerve of these girls sometimes is increadible.DonGorgon said:Fat girls check out the same guys that cute fit girls check out... BUT fat girls will often be easier to F cause demand for them is lower (due to their obesity) so they are less picky...
Fat girls are more open and forward cause often they have to do extra work to get men to F them... Cute chicks are also checking you out but they hide it so you don't know so that if you do approach them you have no clue they like you yet and they can play the games they love soo much...
So this says that women find you attractive which is good...
Mike layed it down pretty nicely with this response.MikeYikes122 said:I can tell you one thing for sure, fat chicks like you.
In all seriousness, it's probably a good sign that fat chicks are checking you out. If they're real obvious in doing so, like they eye fvck you when you walk in the room or they deep throat a banana while looking directly at you, then it's likely that they're coming on strongly to you because you're a good looking dude or you have a high amount of social proof. Fat chicks and unattractive girls have to be more obvious with their attraction when they are interested in a guy who is good looking or has a lot of value. If they don't show direct and obvious signs of interest, there's no way they will get approached by a guy who they perceive of being high value.
A hot chick expects a hot guy to approach her, so she'll give IOIs that are more thinly-veiled and tougher to pick up on. She'll look at him from across the room out of the corner of her eye, she'll make EC at him then look at the ground, etc.
It's natural selection at work. The guy who is legitimately of higher value is strong enough that he doesn't need strong IOIs like the ones the fat girl gives. He is confident enough to approach without them.
Fat chicks and ugly chicks are willing to really put themselves out there pretty hard, while cute girls will be obvious with their signs of interest, but they won't be too obvious. Really hot girls sometimes won't even give signs that they're interested, and when they do they will be very slight. This is why it's best to just approach and assume interest, even if you're not getting IOIs.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
J Roc said:maybe they think you are too ugly to get a hot girl and would be desperate enough to sleep with them
Adma said:Lame response...
The truth is this, fat girls always fall for guys that she feels she can never have. A fat girl is more direct about her attraction than say a beauty.
hahahahaha... mustard yellow shirt... reppedCOD said:they like a certain type.......U may be putting out a vibe.......mustard yellow shirt, red peppers prints........anything approximating food could trigger their desire
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.