Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
dont use facebook , poeple will read your mind and your life activity from fb , even from simple pictures and comments , it will tell alot about you , and mostly negativeDoes anyone even use Facebook anymore?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yes. I remember reading an article that compared today to American society several decades back. I think it was in the NYT but I'm not sure.Bumsniff said:If Facebook was gone forever from this moment on. Would there be an increase of people in need of psychiatric assistance? Would the loss of constant attention and audience of 'fans' possibly drive many people over the edge?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
:crackup: :crackup:Blackmm said:People would just reactivate their Myspace accounts.
They do that for NFL, CEO, MLB, SAG, BMW, AMG, CBS, NBC, ABC, BET, MTV, COO, CFO players too!Burroughs said:The end of facebook would be a drastic change for bishes...and a good one for dudes
their prime dealer of emotional crack would be gone, chicks would be forced to go to bars and guzzle cvm for the attention they crave..
they already do this for NHL and NBA players but now normal dudes would be getting head in the bathroom stalls in clubs accross america...without facebook chicks would be tetherless and confused, where to post pics of that mediocre maranara sauce she is trying to pass off as edible..ok you're right bishes don't cook...where to post azz shot self pics ...and best of all
NO MORE FISH LIP PICS!!
nismo-4 said::crackup: :crackup:
If that goes, people would reactivate their POF, OKCupid, and Black Planet Accounts!
They do that for NFL, CEO, MLB, SGA, BMW, AMG, CBS, NBC, ABC, BET, MTV, COO, CFO players too!
But, there would still be a smartphone app that women would be into to be away from men. It might be called iHunk, where a woman can interact with a virtual muscular millionaire who wants to get married in a mansion.
I've called it Flakebook and Fakebook.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.