I have a crush on a girl who works at a coffee shop around here. I've seen her there for two years and only talked to her once (extremely briefly). This is partly because she has a ring on her left ring finger. The thing is that I've never actually heard her talk about being married or having a boyfriend. I've never asked her if she was married because I thought it would be inappropriate. What are the odds that her ring means she's taken?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
If a woman wears a ring on her left hand, does that always mean she's taken?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
RecoveringAFC
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Not always.
One woman I know refers to them as F-off rings. Specifically designed to keep men away. You could always ask...
One woman I know refers to them as F-off rings. Specifically designed to keep men away. You could always ask...
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My experience is that rings, wherever they are worn, mean nothing unless it's a wedding ring.Stavrogin said:
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taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Even if she's married, I remember the old Major Mark question that he supposedly asked to like 18 zillion married women and got like a 98.463% positive response rate:
(paraphrased): If you could have satisfactory sex with a stranger without any damage to your relationship to your husband, your children, your neighbors, or the members of your church, would you?
try it and report back what happens..
taiyuu
(paraphrased): If you could have satisfactory sex with a stranger without any damage to your relationship to your husband, your children, your neighbors, or the members of your church, would you?
try it and report back what happens..
taiyuu
Taken? The only thing is (if it is a marriage ring, which i don't know where its meant to be worn on or which hand), she was taken into state registration. She as person as an individual isn't owned by anything but herself.Stavrogin said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.