I have a crush on a girl who works at a coffee shop around here. I've seen her there for two years and only talked to her once (extremely briefly). This is partly because she has a ring on her left ring finger. The thing is that I've never actually heard her talk about being married or having a boyfriend. I've never asked her if she was married because I thought it would be inappropriate. What are the odds that her ring means she's taken?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
If a woman wears a ring on her left hand, does that always mean she's taken?
- Thread starter Stavrogin
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
RecoveringAFC
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Not always.
One woman I know refers to them as F-off rings. Specifically designed to keep men away. You could always ask...
One woman I know refers to them as F-off rings. Specifically designed to keep men away. You could always ask...
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My experience is that rings, wherever they are worn, mean nothing unless it's a wedding ring.Stavrogin said:
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taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Even if she's married, I remember the old Major Mark question that he supposedly asked to like 18 zillion married women and got like a 98.463% positive response rate:
(paraphrased): If you could have satisfactory sex with a stranger without any damage to your relationship to your husband, your children, your neighbors, or the members of your church, would you?
try it and report back what happens..
taiyuu
(paraphrased): If you could have satisfactory sex with a stranger without any damage to your relationship to your husband, your children, your neighbors, or the members of your church, would you?
try it and report back what happens..
taiyuu
Taken? The only thing is (if it is a marriage ring, which i don't know where its meant to be worn on or which hand), she was taken into state registration. She as person as an individual isn't owned by anything but herself.Stavrogin said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.