I have a crush on a girl who works at a coffee shop around here. I've seen her there for two years and only talked to her once (extremely briefly). This is partly because she has a ring on her left ring finger. The thing is that I've never actually heard her talk about being married or having a boyfriend. I've never asked her if she was married because I thought it would be inappropriate. What are the odds that her ring means she's taken?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If a woman wears a ring on her left hand, does that always mean she's taken?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Not always.
One woman I know refers to them as F-off rings. Specifically designed to keep men away. You could always ask...
One woman I know refers to them as F-off rings. Specifically designed to keep men away. You could always ask...
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My experience is that rings, wherever they are worn, mean nothing unless it's a wedding ring.Stavrogin said:
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taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Even if she's married, I remember the old Major Mark question that he supposedly asked to like 18 zillion married women and got like a 98.463% positive response rate:
(paraphrased): If you could have satisfactory sex with a stranger without any damage to your relationship to your husband, your children, your neighbors, or the members of your church, would you?
try it and report back what happens..
taiyuu
(paraphrased): If you could have satisfactory sex with a stranger without any damage to your relationship to your husband, your children, your neighbors, or the members of your church, would you?
try it and report back what happens..
taiyuu
Taken? The only thing is (if it is a marriage ring, which i don't know where its meant to be worn on or which hand), she was taken into state registration. She as person as an individual isn't owned by anything but herself.Stavrogin said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.