"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If a woman offers to help you paint your house does that mean that she likes you?

Francisco d'Anconia

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*** snicker *** :p

Sorry guys. I just had an uncontrollable urge to create a noob-like thread. :D

BTW, yes; a woman did offer this to me. Yes; I accepted and she tells me that I "owe her big." ;)

I think I'll show her my "O" face...
:eek: "OHhhhh..."
:eek: "OHhhh..."
:eek: "OHhhh..."

:whistle:
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yeah, I had a couple offer to paint my house when it was under construction. It means she can see herself in that house I think. I passed - I needed a pro paintjob, not a paintjob with benefits.
 

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omg!! my 2nd favorite thread title of the year award!!
 

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Actually I was slow the first time, the second time I told her "no, but we can sand the deck" - yeah.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Tell her you'll pay her back by mowing her lawn for her....

:-D
 

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fedagent said:
Tell her you'll pay her back by mowing her lawn for her....

:-D
Maybe work on her plumbing too.... ;)

Actually, before she offered she tossed out a reason for me to come by her place to "fix something." Eh, I think it's amusing when grown women play these coy games. I'm not complaining, it's just playful, light hearted and kinda cute.
 

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This means that she is open to having sex with you.

What you do is you paint one room with her.

Then you tell her you want pay her back for helping you.

Give her a back massage

and then make your move


Women find painting to be very romantic.

I am speaking from exprience.

I would tell girls about my new condo and that I still had painting to do. It was a given that they would offer to help.

so I would say.. ok you can help me pick out the paint

I would call her up a few days later, take her to the store, bring her home, paint, and ****.

I baged three girls this way, on the carpet, doggy style (with some paint on her face)
 

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Epilogue: The woman came over and attempted to help me. Ended up on a tarp by the fireplace. Had to hire professional painters to finish the job. Still haven't decided if it was worth the cost.

New Chapter: Woman who I haven't seen in about three months called me out of the blue. She's coming over tonight to help me pack and move tomorrow. This time I'm going to get most of the work done before she gets there.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Women love to feather nests. When you own a place, they aren't afraid to tell you how to redo it..help out.. etc. Be careful, tho. The dark side of this is they feel they have hooks in you.. you owe them "something". It's the female equivalent to a guy buying flowers, taking her to fancy restaurants, etc.
 

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Thomas94305 said:
Women love to feather nests. When you own a place, they aren't afraid to tell you how to redo it..help out.. etc. Be careful, tho. The dark side of this is they feel they have hooks in you.. you owe them "something". It's the female equivalent to a guy buying flowers, taking her to fancy restaurants, etc.
Too late, this one has already asked (jokingly I hope) if I'd want a room mate. :eek: I'm all for "mating" but I still think that can happen without her moving in. :p Oh yeah, she's stopping by the hairdresser before stopping over to help me pack. :rolleyes: I swear it's a ball watching women operate.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Too late, this one has already asked (jokingly I hope) if I'd want a room mate. :eek: I'm all for "mating" but I still think that can happen without her moving in. :p Oh yeah, she's stopping by the hairdresser before stopping over to help me pack. :rolleyes: I swear it's a ball watching women operate.
It's a joy when you see through their games, and don't get drawn in..
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ARE YOU KIDDING?! Franciso is saving himself for THE ONE!!!!
 

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I've had this happen to me a couple of times. Funny thing is you could only see the fresh paint job with a black light, and then it was a little spotty. Somehow the brawd got more on my sheets then in her mout...I mean wall.
 

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Hey. A lame question, but I wanted it coming from a USA native not friends who "went there".

Is it for real that people around there paint their own houses? I mean, why don't you just pay for someone to paint it for you?
 

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Oxide said:
ARE YOU KIDDING?! Franciso is saving himself for THE ONE!!!!
Are you being sarcastic?

I'm not getting it...
 

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djbr said:
Hey. A lame question, but I wanted it coming from a USA native not friends who "went there".

Is it for real that people around there paint their own houses? I mean, why don't you just pay for someone to paint it for you?

Maybe cuz not everyones rich. I am a painter, and I charge 40$ an hour, and Im not even a bonafide company. Anyone licensed and insured, will charge you the equivillent of 60$ an hour or more.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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